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This is in response to this question below:

Let's settle the debate, which is worse, female cheater or male cheater?

My answer above question is of course that both men and women are equally scumbags when it comes to cheating.

Yes men generally have impulsive sexual needs. Yes women generally have emotional and attention needs. But neither have an excuse to cheat. It’s natural to feel occasionally tempted however both men and women can have the willpower to abstain. If the temptation is getting to be too much they can break up first and then do what they want.

However a better question to ask is who owns up to their cheating bs better when they are caught or feel too guilty and confess?

From my observations cheating men are usually A) sociopathic lying scumbags who feel no guilt (maybe sex addicts) or B) normal guys who got blindsided by lust and caved in.

The A guys can’t be trusted or forgiven. But the B guys will usually be extremely remorseful and guilt stricken. That doesn’t mean B guys should be let off the hook. But they will own up to their crap. They won’t blame their girlfriend/wife for their shitty decision even if they were upset with them earlier

However I find that women who get caught cheating will often try to gaslight their boyfriend/husband. They will say “oh you weren’t there for me” or some other crap. Not all women but many of just have egos that can’t accept that they are cheating whores. So they try to placate their conscious through mental gymnastics vs. just saying “I cheated and I was 100% wrong. You didn’t deserve that and I accept the consequences”. I just do not see that many women doing the latter.

I have an opportunity to marry a younger woman who has an excellent personality and is a very hard worker. We have been friends with for a few years now. It was her idea is purely for economical reasons. It would benefit us both.

But I am not in love with her and she knows that. She said she doesn’t care if I date and sleep with other people. This would be a paper marriage.

I have gotten advice for a few trusted people about this. All but one person said it’s a bad idea. I am leaning towards no myself but besides the economical arrangement a part of me wonders if I’ll ever find an ideal partner given my age.

Ever since I hit 36 (in my early 40s now) my dating life has been hell on earth trying to find a truly decent woman I feel attracted to. I have had a few flings with attractive women who would make horrible wives. I tried dating a girl who i felt so so about physically just for her personality. That slowly got agonizing. I ended up breaking up with her and that ended very badly (she went psycho).

However of me just WANTS this life milestone. But I don’t want to be an adulterer. Even though she understands I might date other woman I do have spiritual beliefs. Oddly the Bible doesn’t say anything direct about premarital sex (but it heavily implied that’s not alright). But it is VERY clear about adultery. I wouldn’t feel comfortable cheating on my wife. Even if it really is a paper marriage and it doesn’t sit well with me.

Women are notorious for sending mixed messages and “shit testing” men. They say something is okay when it really isn’t. They want to see if the guy is self controlled and wise enough to pass the test.

However there are a few scenarios men are guilty of this as well. I can think of only two scenarios where men unfairly “shit test” women.

Shit Test #1: He pressures her to have sex early. She gives it up and he then later loses respect for her.

A lot of men judge women for being promiscuous/easy. If she initiating random sex with lots of guys that’s one thing. But if a guy pressures her to do it and she gives in (and enjoys it) then he really has no right to judge her. It was all his idea.

Yet there are some men who do this and frankly it’s a double standard bs. I actually stayed in long term relationships with all three of my past gfs despite having sex with all on them within 3 dates. One ex girlfriend said she would of done it on our first date (we did on the second) if I initiated. But I am actually glad I didn’t.

Shit Test #2: Telling her you don’t mind if she hangs out and talks (a lot) with other guys including exes. However when she does the man gets angry/jealous.

Jealousy is a tricky bastard. On one end a very controlling man is extremely insecure. He gets pissed off if another guy looks to long at his girlfriend or tries to chat with her (often the other guy doesn’t know she’s taken). It can actually be a compliment when other guys check out your girlfriend/wife JUST as long they are respectful about it. But when they cross a line it deserves an ass kicking.

On the flip side some guys seemingly don’t mind at all of their girlfriend/wife hang out with other guys and even do more with them. It’s like they are somehow demonstrating they aren’t controlled by jealousy.

But the truth is some guys “say” it’s alright when deep down they are not at all okay with it. It’s there way of “testing” their girlfriend/wife to make sure they really love them.

Florida Governor Ron DeSantis who plans on running for President in either 2024 or 2028 has introduced a new bill targeting people who act disrespectfully. He complained that more people have lacked manners and that the kids are getting out of control.

His plan is to ban the commandphrase, "shut up", from ever being used in school. He also wants the FCC and MPA to regulate shows and movies rated TV-14 / PG-13 and lower and ban them from using such a phrase. He plans that use of the dreaded SU-term will need to require an MA/R rating because of its use being disrespectful.

DeSantis wants to ban both students and teachers from using the term, and instead use "be quiet," "sshh," "zip it," or "get outta here."

Interestingly, Cori Bush explained the so-called "racist and sexist history" behind the term, explaining that it was used in the 1800s and 1900s during slavery and Jim Crow to force black wives and stepdaughters on plantation to have sex with white masters.