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I can think of one example in my life and one example in a friend's life where a guy was interested in her and also another time where a guy was interested in me, when I resisted they pursued but when I pursued, they resisted. I did not date the guy cause he was turned off by the fact I initiated contact but when I avoided him he would sacrifice other events to chase after me, but this was years and years ago.

My cousin says the same thing to her friends that if you want a guy to like you, you should ignore him. I don't know if she still gives advice cause she is at the age where a lot of her friends have settled down and are no longer on dating sites.

He always tells me that he likes me and that he wants me and enjoys spending his time with me.. that said he’s been chasing me for almost a year now and overall we’ve been talking for two years almost BUT I don’t feel it I don't know if it’s because we’re long distanced or not but I tried to believe his feelings and when I’m about to tell him “yeah maybe I have same feelings for you” he ruins it right before me confessing my feelings he ruins it with his delayed ass messages that don’t even do much bc of how cold they are.. he never posts new pics of him although I ask him to do so and he just plays it off cool saying he doesn’t have any new ones which I certainly don’t believe.. He never asks me questions that show how much he gives a damn.. Never to dive deep down into the conversation.. never sends me gifts or something sweet such as a reel on Instagram expressing his damn love for me and it goes on and on… Y'all tell me if I’m tripping or he doesn’t love me like he claims!! Mind y’all I did once hint about me starting having something for him so he should know and instead of ruining it every time he should know how to win my heart! On the other side, he kinda cares when I ghost him he’s always the one to text first saying how much he misses me and how he can’t complete his day without me and when I did no contact with him he still came and left messages saying hope everything is alright and even shared food pics with me as he usually does, not to mention when I tried to push him away from me he insisted that he would never give up on me!

He always tells me that he likes me and that he wants me and enjoys spending his time with me.. that said he’s been chasing me for almost a year now and overall we’ve been talking for two years almost BUT I don’t feel it I don't know if it’s because we’re long distanced or not but I tried to believe his feelings and when I’m about to tell him “yeah maybe I have same feelings for you” he ruins it right before me confessing my feelings he ruins it with his delayed ass messages that don’t even do much bc of how cold they are.. he never posts new pics of him although I ask him to do so and he just plays it off cool saying he doesn’t have any new ones which I certainly don’t believe.. He never asks me questions that show how much he gives a damn.. Never to dive deep down into the conversation.. never sends me gifts or something sweet such as a reel on Instagram expressing his damn love for me and it goes on and on… Y'all tell me if I’m tripping or he doesn’t love me like he claims!! Mind y’all I did once hint about me starting having something for him so he should know and instead of ruining it every time he should know how to win my heart! On the other side, he kinda cares when I ghost him he’s always the one to text first saying how much he misses me and how he can’t complete his day without me and when I did no contact with him he still came and left messages saying hope everything is alright and even shared food pics with me as he usually does, not to mention when I tried to push him away from me he insisted that he would never give up on me and blah blah blah I don't know but I’m hella confused!