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As children, we are told that we must be "fair" to other people, and that usually involves treating them the way we would want to be treated. So, when we start dating, most of us believe that relationships should be "fair." For most, that implies that both participants should make a substantially equal effort for their partner. But some people have different ideas about what "fairness" means, and some people get extremely upset when they decide their partner isn't being "fair."

All relationships can't always be fair. I am getting married on April 27 and my fiancee (who lived in China until she was 29 years old) knows NOTHING about American weddings, and that is what she wants: an American wedding. So I must do all of the planning. I could complain that isn't fair, but what does that accomplish?

I think "fair" isn't a useful concept for relationships. It should be replaced with two questions: are you getting your needs met in the relationship, and is your partner usually contributing to the best of his or her abilities? If the answers are "yes" and "no," then it is most likely a healthy relationship. What do you think?

WITHOUT getting shamed?

According to SOME on here, it seems like we aren't allowed to have any - I've seen many on here who are very reasonable too, before anyone starts crying:

• If we want women to shave her body hair, we're petty, because it's 'natural' yet the same user is happy to be repulsed by a man who's balding or has a bit of a belly, despite those being natural, as we age.
• If a guy doesn't want to go down on his woman, he's gay and will get dumped.
• If we care about a woman's body, it's because we're 'ugly', yet one of them who shamed us, said she wouldn't date a male slut.
• If we want to date younger, '80-90%' of us are pedos, but women who date younger 'have options'.
• If we don't want to date a single mother, it's because we aren't 'quality men' who can handle it.
• If we complain about losing our assets in divorce, we're 'disgusting' and deserve it for being a 'POS husband'.

Some of the women's standards rule out the most men, but men aren't allowed to rule out any, not to mention the countless movements you have for women, basically shaming men or forcing them to accept women that they would otherwise find undesirable.

'Body positivity' - "accept me for being fat" - okay, but where's the one for short or fat men?

Let me guess, it's 'female nature' to be XYZ and male to XYZ - okay, but are you doing your own part by having kids or your other feminine duties? - Seems like men have to do their's at all times, but can't expect nothing in return to be a 'quality man' & women just want the leverage to feel superior.

There seems to be a theme to deflect accountability/have a different attitude towards shitty female behaviour vs male - instead, lets cry about F&F, KS & Tate, but not focus on the women who go choose to go on their shows & embarrass themselves or deluded women like little Miss cupcake who went on the Steve Harvey show. 😂

Actually answer the question instead deflecting & remember that I am talking about a few on this site.