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I’ve been A and somewhat B. There was a time in my 20s I got a lot of attention. Lots of women told me I was cute and handsome back then. I could approach any woman and literally say anything and get away with it. I was never aggressive dbag but i could flat out make sexual jokes/remarks back then and at worst a girl would laugh out of amusement (even if she wasn’t interested).

The only time I ever really got turned down back the is if the girl was already taken. But even taken girls would often chat with me and sometimes give out there number (but they wouldn’t respond to texts/calls). I would only find out later they had bfs.

However I did have a few bad experiences. I had two girls actively stalking me in college. I’ve had random drunk women grope me in clubs/bars. I’ve had one woman get angry and trying to shove me when I turned her down. I’ve had other guys try to throw me under the bus out of jealousy. But those incidents were few and far between.

Now I’ve gotten older I’m not the baby faced 24 year old I once was. I am still in excellent physical shape but I‘m not going to go walking around shirtless (unless it’s at the beach or something).

Overall it’s been a lot tougher approaching women. Although I have gotten more aware of their body language and I’ve gotten better at my game it’s insanely tough now. I have very little wiggle room to make any mistakes. If i say or do anything even remotely considered “creepy” it’s game over. It doesn’t matter if it was unintentional or not. Nor does it matter if the girl even knows it was unintentional. I’m being held to a much higher standard.

But I am curious what women honestly have to say about this. I was surprised that some prefer B. I sure as hell don’t.

as a personal attack against them?

For instance, if I acknowledge that woman is overweight, that would get me the "fatphobic" buzzword thrown at me, even if I'm only just showing concern for her health (possibility of type 2 diabetes and cardiovascular diseases in the future) rather than trying to put her down or insult her. Nowadays, it's just not worth trying to help anyone out without too many people taking everything personal these days, lol.

I'm pretty sure most of you have, especially the girls. I'm not judging though. I've done this too, and I think it's only natural to try to move up if you have an opportunity. It doesn't have to be something like letting a guy buy you a house. It could be like letting him/her buy you dinner, getting attention/compliments, getting help on a homework assignment, etc. Do I think someone can take it too far? Absolutely. Please do speak about your experiences.

I know someone could be doing this out of the goodness of their heart but let's be real, most of the scenarios where someone is helping someone attractive, it's because of something to gain, but usually the person who is getting the help first is the winner because that's guaranteed and the other party just has a hope or expectation. And usually the attractive person is well aware of this although many people don't like to admit it. This question is actually asking about situations where you're well aware by the way.