You need to exit this relationship post haste.
You have a valid situation in taking care of your mom for the time being. She's not respecting the fact that you're doing a good thing. She's also not respecting your "No for now." She's aware of your financial and family situation and you should not be considered her ticket out of her financial straits.
You say she has a spending habit. Why would you want to be involved with someone like this if 1. you're struggling to pay for your schooling out of pocket. And why should you accept her trying to make you 2 feel guilty about taking care of your mom and yourself and 3. saying she can't go to school because you aren't helping her?
You've known this woman SIX MONTHS! Read the red flags on the wall. She expects you to rescue her. Politely bow out of the quicksand ahead. You don't have the money or the time for her demands... And they are just that DEMANDS.
Help your mom first, yourself second and finish your schooling without extraneous interference.
This woman is looking for a lifesaver to keep her afloat. Don't allow her to guilt you, use you and cause you to sink. Good luck.
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I don't agree that it is too early to move in together. I moved across the continent, to a new country with my boyfriend (at the time we were dating 9 months, but decided that at 6 months) and we are still here after almost 3 years. So, in my opinion, time doesn't matter.
But in my opinion, given your situations, I would say she is little manipulative. She is guily-tripping you.
Think twice is that kind of person you want to be with?
Don't trust her
Trust is something you earn over a significantly longer amount of time
She's either way too trusting of you or she's trying to use you
I'd say she's using you or trying to use you
It's possible she likes you and is actually interested you as a romantic partner in the long run but she's still trying to use you financially so you should either break up with her or firmly let her know where you stand and tell her not to overstep you're bound
Time means nothing but she seems to be giving you a little more trouble than you think and you're not made of money, if you really, absolutely think she's worth the stress, you gotta learn to cut down on some of the pleasures of life haaaaaard and that sounds already hard for you, I'd weigh the risks
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Dude, she is looking for a meal ticket. Six months you've been together? Way too soon to think about moving in, even you personal circumstances were more favorable. Stand your ground, and don't let her bully you into it. If she ends up leaving you because of it consider it a favor.
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