Girlfriend pressuring me on move in?

[Anonymous]

So this girl I've been dating has recently used lines such as "I'm waving the white flag", "I may just move back to Ohio", and "I just can't do it anymore" with it pertaining to work, life, etc I guess. She says if I don't move her in I don't care about her and she is wasting her time. Thing is I do care, but this feels like a pressure tactic am I wrong? Should I move her in in this time of need or wait til it feels right? She also says her lease is coming up in 2 months and doesn't know how she will have the money to pay for new lease signing.

[Anonymous]

If you are not ready to have her move in with you, just let her know that you are not ready for that kind of step and ask her to be more understanding.

Let her know that she is an independent woman and she can do it on her own if she wanted.

I never had a problem like she has with you, my husband is usually the one pressuring me to marry him and pressuring me to move in with him etc.

I think you need to help her understand that she needs to be more independent and that's what you admire in her.

If it was me (how old is she?) when I was 22 I lived on my own with my own place and paid my own rent and had my own full time job (who needs a man?). My guy lived with me for a few weeks at my house... and I had my own nice car. etc etc

but you know if she is successful now, and can be independent now then she will be later. If she is not then she probably will be clingy and dependent. Just saying (I am not claiming this is 100% the case but I think from my point of view and my stand point, that's how I feel).