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well the love of my life i met him a few weeks ago, on December, we said we're with each other only, but i had sex with a guy this week, and i don't if ill tell him today that ill see him, we both told each other that we're falling in love of each other. but well i wanna keep seeing the guy i was with before him, and i told him about him, the previous guy told me he wasn't that into me and that he didn't like talking to someone everyday, and i told him i didn't want to be friends with benefits with him, and now i do want to because, this new guy im in love with can only see me on fridays and weekends, and that's too little for me, he says i won't be always, it just he's got more work because it's summer, but still, i wanna keep seeing the other guy, plus the other guy is generous with drugs, and my new guy doesn't care about inviting me that, and i have so much fun with mdma, i buy that and i like to be invited to have sex and do mdma and i also invite mdma but my new guy doesn't even do that, he doesn't like mdma, he likes cocaine and i dont do that. well there is also another guy i wanna keep seeing, he was my dance teacher and i dont want something serious with him too, i just like having fun with him , these two guys are so fun , i like having sex with em and do drugs with em, during the days im not with my love of my life, also, I've been on relationships all the time, im kinda tired of that, i didn't want this love of my life to come now but he did and well i wanna do things right but i hate that i could never really enjoy my singleness...

what do you think? should i tell him all this?

Hey, so I met a guy around 7 yr ago while I was working in a restaurant, he asked for my number &then a few weeks later I got a train to see him for the weekend. We got on really really well but I didn’t sleep with him as wernt officially dating, we spoke for months after but I ended up going travelling& when I got back he had a girlfriend, I ended up in a 3 year relationship but then we both somehow ended up single at the same time, he contacted me (as must have seen I deleted all photos of ex) we went on a date and the date was just amazing I can’t explain the butterfly feeling he gives me. Still didn’t sleep with him as I’m old fashioned and we weren’t exclusive.. anyways after the date I got back with my ex and we didn’t speak. A year later I’m single & he gets in touch asking if I’m okay and randomly turned up at my house with flowers to cheer me up. we end up talking for a few weeks and he’s asking me why I never make effort to talk to him and why he’s always chasing me (he’s a basketball player so I’m kind of wary that he’s talking to loads of other girls & I’m a bit shy I’m nowhere near as hot) by the way we still haven’t had sex but just having a really nice connection. Again he goes radio Silent on me.. so fast forward a few months and he rings me drunk saying I’m the only person he’s ever loved and he’s so nervous around me etc.. I thought I would make more effort with him so I start finally messaging first and stuff and we plan to have a night away and we talk about having sex & it gets quiet passionate. then again he goes radio silent. so a month goes by & after hearing nothing from him he pops up merry Christmas I love you & one day your going to be my wife which is random as hell since he practically ghosted me twice this year? Then after talking every night on the phone he’s gone silent again? am I reading this all wrong does he even like me or what? or am I just not making enough effort? & no he doesn’t have a wife or a girlfriend I know his family

In a heterosexual relationship, I'm curious to know which option both sexes would choose given the right circumstances were in place.

I encourage you to consider what would make you feel happiest and most fulfilled.

Try not to worry about what other people would think or want you to say.

You can vote anonymously if it helps.

Women - please read carefully

How many of you would prefer to be a wife and possibly a mom, IF you were guaranteed the man would treat you with love and respect for what you do?

That said, your husband encouraged and supported you in your passion projects, hobbies and part time work if it's something you chose to do. BUT your family would be your FIRST priority and your work and passions come second.

That said, you aren't the main bread winner.

OR, would you be happiest having a full time career and just hiring a nanny or the man be the homemaker?

Men - please read carefully

If all of the above applied to you and you could chose to be the breadwinner or the homemaker, which one would you chose? Let's say hypothetically, we are still living in a "perfect" world still. And your wife and society would treat you with love and respect despite which role you chose. What would you chose?

We get so many messages on what we should or shouldn't do based on our sexe. In fact there are mixed messages and views on it. At the end of the day, I'm curious to know what people truly desire if they new without a doubt they could trust their partner and the social pressures and judgments are completely removed.

I'm a Christian but I've been in a sexual relationship with my boyfriend for about 10 months. For a few months, I've been having feelings of guilt after sex and it literally seems like I'm being sent messages from God to stop having sex before marriage.

I told my boyfriend about this and he said we can work on it together a week ago but yesterday, he brought it up again and said he doesn't think it'll be possible and that he'd not be able to cope. We cried on the phone for hours. He said the chances of him cheating are high and he might get frustrated if we go through with it. I appreciate his honesty and I love him very much.

He's a good man too. He kept begging me to help him; to compromise because he didn't want to loose me over something like this. He literally cried very bitterly and I almost folded but, I kept thinking that if he didn't want to loose me, he'd be willing to go on this journey with me. I told him we are allowed to fail because we're trying to stop and it's obviously not going to be easy.

I'm just really disappointed because he is a Christian like me and I didn't expect this answer but then i also totally understand because he is big on sex.

I'm really confused... If you've ever been in a situation like this, please help. If you've not please what do you think can save us?