I met a woman last year. We were dating, not having sex nor kissed, though. She suddenly confessed her feelings to me. I was very flattered to be honest. I am in a relationship with another woman, I want her a lot but she is not so much into me, as I'd like. Anyways, I didn't tell to the other woman about my relationship. I was expecting her to just lose her interest in me. And off course I didn't tell her if I love her or not, because I wasn't sure. But I certainly liked her. Anyways, this girl insisted. I finally, after many months, I told her the truth: that I am in a problematic relationship with another woman. She seemed understanding, but after a couple of months she started chasing me again. After several months I found out, casually, that she told to her friends about me, that she loves me and she was crying all day for me, etc. And those friends told other people about some random guy (me) who was leading her on. Why did she do that to me? Why didn't she respect me? Why didn't she shut up and keep it to herself instead of talking to other people about me behind my back? Now people think I am an egoistic guy who leads on women. Why couldn't she simply keep it for herself?
Why did she tell to other people that I leaded her on?
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I thinks she’s a very insecure person that when rejected she turns to being rude as her defense. Honestly I believe that in a way you did lead the girl on as you didn’t tell her about your relationship and waited a while. On the other hand in no way did you really give her a chance when she confessed her feelings to you. I think that you and her both did many things you should have done differently. Overall the woman who spread those lies was the most in the wrong and doesn’t handle rejection well.
Well, she didn't spread lies, to be honest, but she told every single detail to her friends and other people, and now I feel exposed!
Well there’s really nothing that can be done that will really take a big effect other than having a deep conversation with the woman. I would just say to move on and put the past behind you.
It sounds like this woman can't keep her experience to herself nor her moth in low gear. Actually, she appears to be very insecure and more trouble than she is worth. Either you two get together and talk like serious people or move on. There's a lot of mistiming here but the damage may already be done...
She defines the work toxic, so stay away from her and stop sharing any info with her.