So I started dating a friend of mine. We went out for about three years. She randomly said she doesn’t want a relationship and she doesn’t want sex. But she wants to be friends. Problem is I’m still in love with her. And she acts like we never dated. I asked her if we could still be intimate and her response was
I don’t want to have sex with you , Eewww
What the actual fuck kind of response is that? Mind you when we were together she never acted like sex with me was an issue as a matter of fact that was one of the reasons why I had an issue an in our relationship due to the fact she would act single and not make me a priority. She said, flirting was innocent, and I need to stop being insecure. This was around the same time frame is she stopped having sex with me. I never had any insecurity in this department until she started treating me this way. Now she says this to me. I kind of don’t know how to respond to this rejection and if I should still continue to be friends with her, I feel like she’s lying to me because she keeps secrets but we’re not together, so I don’t know how to honestly feel.
I don’t want to have sex with you , Eewww
What the actual fuck kind of response is that? Mind you when we were together she never acted like sex with me was an issue as a matter of fact that was one of the reasons why I had an issue an in our relationship due to the fact she would act single and not make me a priority. She said, flirting was innocent, and I need to stop being insecure. This was around the same time frame is she stopped having sex with me. I never had any insecurity in this department until she started treating me this way. Now she says this to me. I kind of don’t know how to respond to this rejection and if I should still continue to be friends with her, I feel like she’s lying to me because she keeps secrets but we’re not together, so I don’t know how to honestly feel.
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I think the thing that hurts the most is that we were very close friends beforehand and I never thought she would be that way with me. It makes me very. I’m trusting now.
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I've been close to here so i sort of get some of it. Meetup helped me immensely with the sporting and real people... Keep your body, mind, and emotions busy in gym, reading, soccer pitch, or whatever to keep her off your mind. Best thing that happened to you is her doing this now rather than later !!
Thanks man. I definitely have some goal in mind.
Good luck with it all 💪
You got used, dude. Your girlfriend was cheating on your in front of your face. Flirting can be innocent, but if your partner has a problem with it, you STOP. You don't exacerbate their insecurity. That's like kicking someone in the balls and saying "Don't let that hurt". You can't help it.
I'm really sorry.
That’s how I felt. Thank you for being honest. I appreciate it.
Do you agree with the 'getting kicked in the balls' analogy?
Absolutely cause that’s what it felt like.
I told her that she is putting a message out there that my man ain’t shit. I disrespect him and you can too. Giving other men a green flag. That is so Fucked up. Do you agree with that?
You should talk to someone about it. Take some time to process, get all the feelings out. And try to move on. It might take a several times repouring out the pain, but you'll survive.
I do agree with that!
Ok. Thank you. She tried to tell me that I was trying to control her and change who she is. Can I ask another question then
Of course
Is it inappropriate for a girl to get phone calls from other men at 2- 3 o’clock in the morning when she’s in a relationship? Not only that but men that she’s had sex with in the past?
That is VERY inappropriate
That’s what I thought. Let’s just say she was very good at gaslighting me. Manipulating and twisting things around. It’s quite embarrassing now. Thank you for your honesty.
I know it's embarrassing... but it happens to a lot of people. It happened to my husband.
Now you have vital information to avoid girls like her again. :/
Look at your update. It says I'm trusting
Whoops. How do I fix that cause not trusting. Not … lol
Not trusting.
You just have to add another update lol with an *
Gotcha
So wait the part that has me really fucked up is her reaction to having sex with me. I am not bad looking. I have never had anyone say I was bad in bed. Is she just being a bitch? Why would she be so mean? Sorry for the language.
Fuck, I have no idea. That's just rude. Did you USED to have sex?
Yes we did. A lot. She even said that she really enjoyed sex with me. But she started to weaponize sex. Making me feel insecure. That when the flirting with other men started. She swears up and down that she doesn’t want sex with anyone. I personally think she fucked someone and caught something. The last things she would want is to get caught up in a lie. However that could be me jumping to conclusions. I don't know
I wouldn't be surprised if she was lying tbh
She's no good for you I have to break it but move on! You deserve better!
Honestly that is nice to hear. Thank you
Your welcome! And good luck!