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I haven’t always been the best person in relationships, but lately I feel like I’ve gotten much better and am ready for a serious one. I had a coworker tell me I’m “hubby material” because of my demeanor, work ethic, appearance, and emotional intelligence, but I’ve never felt that the girls I end up with feel the same. One reason is probably because I move too fast sexually, but I feel like because I’m not the biggest size-wise, if anything goes wrong in a relationship a woman is quicker to move on from me. When I see girls from the past, there are some who still show to be interested if I make the move and jump through a hurdle or two (if they’re not seriously dating). Where as with other guy friends that are more “blessed”, they have girls who will stop talking to them for various reasons but then end up reaching back out themselves within days or weeks for what seems to be just for the sex.

Say there's a guy you really find really attractive. He is neutral to you at first, but you drop a lot of really strong hints for him to get to know you better and take you out on a date. The guy is open-minded and figures "sure, why not?" and agrees to go out on a date with you. However, the afternoon before the date, he texts you and tells you that he always goes Dutch, meaning he only ever pays for his meals and you'll only ever pay for yours. He will NOT be paying for anything on your date, now or ever.

DOES THIS CHANGE YOUR VIEW OF HIM; SPECIFICALLY IN A NEGATIVE WAY?

Keep in mind, this does not involve the "we'll each take turns paying" scenario, since in this case, you persuaded him to ask you out on a date, even if he is still technically The Asker. This also does not involve the "only if the man insists on paying" scenario. If you are fine with paying yourself and the man insists anyway, then you're still option B.

I'm talking about any woman who has the expectation that the man must pay for you on your date and if you're forced to spend your own money, then you will feel slighted or negative towards him, including refusing him sex down the line, or even ghosting him.

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