How do you have a fun dating life or sex? I feel like I'm getting nowhere and I'm talking to women but they don't care about me?

[poneglyphs]

When I talk to girl's I can make them laugh but nothing else. I don't know how to lead them to the bedroom? Lots of women at work like me because I'm funny but I don't know how to lead on that, does that happen to you? When I talk to girl's irl. I just get ignored or ghosted. I feel confident at times but with random women I feel like it's harder.

[TheAnon1]

I in no way mean to be offensive, but it sounds like you come off as a goofy friend. There has to be a serious or mature side that they see to be attracted to you. Funny is a good trait to have as well though and it will take you far. But just being the funny guy means most girls (or people for that matter) will not take you seriously.

Signs (for me) that a girl is interested:
-she initiates physical contact
-she looks into your eyes deeply or stares at you
-she hints at hanging out exclusively
-she asks you about your preferences and living situation

It’s normal to not feel as confident with random women because there is no comfort zone or guarantee that you will see them again. Nor should you stress that. If you’re interested in a girl, the best way to be is straight forward. Let them know that you’re interested in getting to know them exclusively and offer to take them out. Having a place in mind always helps as well. Continue to be funny but don’t feel like you have to make a girl laugh for her to start liking you. When a woman sees you, she knows instantly if she is attracted to you or not. From there, all you can do is make those feelings stronger for her, or completely f*** it up.

[poneglyphs]

I am a goofy guy my friends and colleagues tell me all the time.

[TheAnon1]

Be yourself but if you find yourself pressing just to get a laugh out of someone, try just being chill for a week or two and see if that changes anything. I’ve definitely been in your shoes before.

[RobT312]

Dude, u seem like a nice guy, so it shouldn’t be this much of a problem.
is goofy and fun the real you or are you forcing it sometimes?
people don’t like “fun” all the time , that’s why I ask.
i was once criticized “ you’re all about the fun” , well that date didn’t go well.
Just be yourself, and everything will fall into place.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, I am a fun, goofy, clumsy guy. I don't force it, it comes out naturally

[RobT312]

Well that’s good, just embrace it, someone will love u for that.
Ask your friends what they think, for example can you improve your looks and any mannerisms that are red flags? They can help u with that.

[NathanDavis]

to be completely honest with you, I have never EVER tried to take a woman to the bedroom... I just hang out with them, then I give it the time for both of us to know each other, which can take weeks or months... and yes, most of those times there is plenty of me making them laugh

but I never ever tried to get them to bed... then just one day, sooner or later, they just jump on you, don't even wait to make it to bed

[exitseven]

I felt the same way years ago. It all changed when I met a girl who was to become my girlfriend for the next 4 years. Maybe that gave me confidence or i made me not as afraid of girls but I was able to date a few girls before I got married.

[billluc69]

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