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I just read her update on reddit:

https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/yozb12/my_husband_40_m_and_i_39_f_are_working_things_out/

- She cheats in 2002 with the guy's friend. She was 19 at the time. They were boyfriend and girlfriend.

- The guy forgives, she betters herself, hever cheated since, they get married later on and have 3 kids.

- 20 years later, this time the husband cheats with his co-worker but for different reasons, unrelated to her old cheating.

- The guy falls in love with his co-worker, he exchanges texts about traveling to Paris with her and leaving his kids, spends money on his affair (even steals and uses some of his wife's money) and takes his wife's meals and desserts to feed the woman

- Everything backfired in the end; his AP partner was using him for money. They're currently working things out. She's sounds upset on her post though.

Since everything was clearly planned with the purpose of revenge (the other person doesn't even know it was just revenge; you don't even find them too attractive either), of hurting them back, of them knowing the pain you went through is that worse?

During the revenge, you didn't really feel guilt but rage. It's not until after it happened but you actually feel guilt for your own self, your own image you destroyed, you as a person but not really for the original cheater.

Is vengeful cheating worse?