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She is 25 and he is 29. He said he is just having a gut feeling they won't work out and being ADHD, he follows it. He also said he feels like she is more invested and loves him more than he loves her.

They have been together 4 years.

However they didn't finish the conversation just kind of walked away from it. When she asked the next morning if they were together or broken up, again met with silence and both just kind of walked away from it.

As she was leaving, he gave her a hug and kiss (he rarely does, not a real affectionate person) so she found that strange. SO she was like, "Are we good? Like we're going to try and work things out?" He said, "we're good, i'll call you later"

When he called they just talked like normal about work, their day, etc. So she is so confused on how to handle the situation without scaring him into rethinking breaking up but also she needs to know. WHY would he all of a sudden show a grand gesture of emotion and call her if he was so adamant about breaking it off?

I met a guy online who told me he stayed on dating sites for 3 years. He told me he never had sex with anyone except for one girl three years ago. He travelled all the way to my city for four hours just to meet me.

When I first met him, I did pull away, but then he tried to prove that not all men are the same. He didn't force me to have sex with him. But then he told me something that somehow scared me—he doesn't want to commit. I did not bother to think about it and just had a good time with him. We shared a lot of talks, fun, and walks. We were both happy and just sending out positive vibes until we had sex together.

After the two days we spent together, he said he had to leave me to visit his friend "girl" in another city, which is 30 minutes away. I was curious about it, but he said she is just a family friend, and they have been friends for many years and are very close. Her family is already his family. He stayed there for three days, and I did not bother to overthink it.

We still communicated together right after he left, and we have been calling and texting each other for three weeks now, getting to know each other better. He eventually told me that he wanted to get serious about me; he sent a lot of kiss and hug emoticons. We become more comfortable with each other.

Now, he told me he wants to drop by to see me in the city next week. I asked him, "Where are you going?" He said to his friend, "Girl," again for two days, but his ultimate goal is to meet me.

I felt uncomfortable and scared if he was telling the truth, and I somehow doubted that this girl could be his girlfriend or fling. I pulled away again from him, even if it did hurt me a lot, and said I needed space.

Now my question is, do I need advice on whether I shouldn't be jealous of this friend's "girl" OR should I be suspicious and cautious of this guy?