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Within a week you don’t even know someone right?

And he told me he had feelings for me and we’d be a really good family (with our 3 kids) the same day he slept with her and met her and had slept with me 10 hours before.

This is a sign of a narcissistic person. There’s always a tie over and they always cheat then fall in love very fast (didn’t think a week but hey ho)

Or is this genuine and he’s being honest and I’m such a problem (even tho he did this to me too)

He also has made no attempts with his kids and threatened lawyers then did nothing.

By meaningful I mean for potential marriage, having kids, etc.

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Personally I wouldn't - but then I've only been with 2 guys - because I see such people as untrustworthy, unreliable and unable to deal with life or a little bit of difficulty.

I wouldn't be surprised if the majority of them are unable to do more than minimal skills required jobs & only got lucky with better jobs than sweeping floors**.

Furthermore in my encounters, what I've heard, read, etc such people have bad personalities - immature, irresponsible, rude, ignorant, demeaning of others, etc., egotistical, short tempered, prone to childish behavior, not to mention oftentimes they're alcoholics and/or have issues with drugs - that'd make them very highly undesirable even if they didn't sleep around.

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**I've heard as example, including from family friends who taught what would become NHL players, that the average athlete and celebrity is far from being intelligent. The one who taught NHL players bluntly said they're fortunate to have been talented otherwise as they were struggling with simple secondary education. Ironically celebrity and athletes are notoriously unfaithful.

To expand on this, there is this idea that being a parent is very different from wanting a baby.

To want a baby is to want to have something adorable to take care of, something cute that looks like you, that you can dress up how you like, that's completely reliant on you to teach it what it needs. Wanting a baby is wanting something that looks like you that you can bond with on a one-sided basis as babies are not smart enough to comprehend what a bond is, only that you provide them with food and love and shelter and give them what they need when they need it. They are totally helpless and you are helping them happily and find reward in taking care of them, but once the child begins to show signs of their own autonomy that begins to change.

Being a parent means being ready to help a child discover who they are, build on their autonomy, support them and learn new things about this child as they discover these new things, guiding them towards the path that is right for them even if it's one you disagree with on some level (i. e. religious parents helping their queer child be more comfortable being out to them). Being a parent means understanding that you are sacrificing for the sake of someone else and not only willingly accepting that but embracing it because watching your child become an adult is rewarding, despite all of the time you spend losing sleep, losing money, and losing energy to help your baby grow into a child, then a teenager, then an adult.

It was 8 years we were together then he choose someone else over me. We have 3 kids. He’s not made any attempts to see the kids nor wants anything to do with them now.

He’d always say nice things about me etc. forget how attractive I was etc. we had loads of sex. We had crazy sexual tension etc

Always say I’m hot etc but then chose someone else

Did he lie to get me? Now he has someone who’s easier and doesn’t bother him and he doesn’t need to have kids with

He couldn’t stand me asking him to be a dad and a decent one. He wanted to always be alone away from the kids but to also sleep with me.