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28F, maybe you other women my age don’t have this issue. I know I’m not a 10 but I’m told I’m cute/pretty & never get attention from quality guys in person. I get it every once in a while from the guys you don’t want, I’ve been told in the past that I’d get looked at but the guys never did anything about it (and sometimes those were actually the guys I’d consider). I’m on and off dating apps, on there I get the matches & msgs but it just doesn’t work out: I experience the typical ghosting, fizzling out, taking too long to reply etc. There were some times when one of us would admit we weren’t feeling it & while I was guilty of this sometimes, I just figured if I was really attractive I wouldn’t be having this issue. I’ll add that I’m reserved & not very friendly, also on the lower end when it comes to sex drive (which isn’t that uncommon for a woman). Don’t think those play a big part but figured I’d bring it up, I just think it’s kind of unfair & at the point where I’m feeling even less of an urge to try whenever I decide to download the apps again. I can’t help but think it’s not my fault 🤷🏻‍♀️

Okay... so I was on an online forum, presumably a pretty toxic one, and the topic at hand was whether it was "okay" or not for "fat" women to wear revealing clothing or show skin. And one of the people attached the photo of the woman above, saying something like: "Do you REALLY wanna see elephants like this wearing such skimpy outfits such as this? How can a woman who looks like THAT leave the house dressed like that and feel absolutely no shame?"

And I was just like... WHAT? Is that literally not just an average or normal body type? She definitely isn't super skinny, but she most definitely doesn't look "fat" to me either. She does have somewhat of a belly, but then again, so do a lot of people. I wouldn't even consider it a bad thing, just some extra softness. Her belly definitely doesn't look excessive to me either.

Honestly, I'd refer to her as "curvy." She has big boobs and relatively wide hips, only her waist is a normal size instead of super thin. Which makes sense. Usually curvier women won't be super skinny.

Also... my own body type is quite a bit "fatter" compared to hers, so if she's "fat" what does that make me... lol...

I'll also get this out there, I'm bisexual and her body type is honestly kind of ideal to me. She's in pretty good shape overall, yet looks like someone who can enjoy pasta and beer and just chill. She isn't supermodel attractive or anything, but I like more average looking girls since they're more welcoming and relatable to me. I find the supermodel types too intimidating/unapproachable anyway, lol.

Are you the type of woman that doesn't see the big deal with Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum? -- or a man who could pass on Scarlett Johansson or Eva Longoria? Do you find that you are pulled toward people that really aren't known for being conventionally good looking, but are because they have a je ne sais quoi about them? Like intelligence, humour, or some defining trait that makes them unique?

Years ago, one of my best friends told me she decided that Louis CK was sexy. She said, "I know it doesn't make sense. A balding ginger. No one gets that." But she said his confidence, humour, and the way he delivered his comedy was so appealing to her. It got me thinking, how many others truly do see beyond the traditional, wild good looks and see a sex appeal underneath what would be either average looks, or unconventional good looks.