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I'm preaching to the choir when I say that life is difficult. We think that what other people have is better than what we have. This sort of thinking messes with our lives.

My next point is I'm in college. The ring before spring culture is insane. I see couples everywhere and yet I realize that I may not see as many couples as I think I see. What I mean by that is there are factors I don't see (where they are in the relationship). It seems better to be in a relationship because of the perceived validation, touch, and company. It takes a lot of adaptation to stay a couple.

Couples need to think about the future. There is the money aspect of buying a house and having kids. Other aspects are the partner's habits to maneuver, feelings to be honest about. If one is not honest about them (bottling them thus keeping them a secret) they won't get along very well. That is the price of creating a harmonious lifestyle. Habits and feelings are not bad they are a part of you; they will be a part of the kids as well.

I would say dating and marriage is an extension of school. While this will be an unpopular opinion, I will explain my reasoning. Anytime, I explain my reasoning I'd rather exercise my thinking than convince you. Dating and Marriage is not fully like school; it doesn't have math, literature and science in that order. School is heavy on the subjects, light on the fun. Dating and marriage is lighter on the subjects. The subjects are needed to keep the boat. Analogy: fun things keep the boat floating. Each semester I'm in college took adaptability to succeed in my courses. Every course is different, so is each person.

Decision-making for dating and marriage has to be unified. I am not saying that couples need to order the same thing at restaurants. I'm saying scheduling vacation times, which school the kid is going to, who's the nanny. Cemented stuff like that.

My bfs family bought a vacation home down South and they stay there for the winter…. my bfs mom told her son and me that I couldn’t go with them ( i work part time and I’m in a single parent home…. was also financially struggling a couple years ago)….

my bfs mom told my boyfriend to come alone on vacation. Is this a potential red flag? Or did his mom not wanna financially burden me?

she's always warm and affectionate towards me and says she considers me family and always gives me leftover food after dinner….

I’ve seen an increasing number of anime fans choosing to stay single since they have 2D crushes. Weird or normal?

I don’t wear makeup and I don’t shave my underarms because I only have hair on my underarms and down there, the rest of my body is silky smooth. I know there are girls and women like me in real life and every one of them has a choice in what they want to do with their bodies. I was wearing a basic sleeveless dress and I was sitting alone at a bar and there was a young man around my age chatting me up. I was shocked because I’m sure he has noticed I don’t look good in any way especially my underarms being unshaven, my face having pimples and some acne scars on my face. I was panicking inside but pretend to show I’m not afraid of him. I answered his questions and we did have a chat. He then asked me if I’m single to which I replied. ‘I prefer to stay single because I’m a burden due to personal reasons. There are way better looking girls around here why pick me when you can pick them?’ He replied ‘You have the confidence to go out like this is the reason why, not everything is about looks you know.’ He left and I saw how he looked a little disappointed. I find being single is safer, easier and cheaper compared to getting married. Since marriage does comes with lots of stress especially when there are kids involved and honestly I couldn’t handle married life. It doesn’t matter if it’s marriage life with or without kids. I just know I couldn’t handle them. I’m a weak vulnerable person so I couldn’t afford to be in a relationship where it might be a toxic/abusive one.