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Women are notorious for sending mixed messages and “shit testing” men. They say something is okay when it really isn’t. They want to see if the guy is self controlled and wise enough to pass the test.

However there are a few scenarios men are guilty of this as well. I can think of only two scenarios where men unfairly “shit test” women.

Shit Test #1: He pressures her to have sex early. She gives it up and he then later loses respect for her.

A lot of men judge women for being promiscuous/easy. If she initiating random sex with lots of guys that’s one thing. But if a guy pressures her to do it and she gives in (and enjoys it) then he really has no right to judge her. It was all his idea.

Yet there are some men who do this and frankly it’s a double standard bs. I actually stayed in long term relationships with all three of my past gfs despite having sex with all on them within 3 dates. One ex girlfriend said she would of done it on our first date (we did on the second) if I initiated. But I am actually glad I didn’t.

Shit Test #2: Telling her you don’t mind if she hangs out and talks (a lot) with other guys including exes. However when she does the man gets angry/jealous.

Jealousy is a tricky bastard. On one end a very controlling man is extremely insecure. He gets pissed off if another guy looks to long at his girlfriend or tries to chat with her (often the other guy doesn’t know she’s taken). It can actually be a compliment when other guys check out your girlfriend/wife JUST as long they are respectful about it. But when they cross a line it deserves an ass kicking.

On the flip side some guys seemingly don’t mind at all of their girlfriend/wife hang out with other guys and even do more with them. It’s like they are somehow demonstrating they aren’t controlled by jealousy.

But the truth is some guys “say” it’s alright when deep down they are not at all okay with it. It’s there way of “testing” their girlfriend/wife to make sure they really love them.

Growing up I always heard that women understand men better than men understand women.

To a certain extent that makes sense. Women usually have better intuition and relationships are a big deal to them. Plus they are usually taught at an earlier age on what traps/dangers avoid with men. Given women can get pregnant and men can’t I understand the parental concern there.

But as I got older I have found that many women do not understand men at all. If they did then they wouldn’t come up with all these radical feminist bs “movements” (metoo a few years ago) They would have the rationale to understand that a minority of men will always be evil. They need to look out (and call out) the true scumbags vs. having blanket stereotyping/discrimination against large swathes of men.

Of course I know most women aren’t radical feminists. But how and why do these people have so much power and influence when most people disagree with them (even if they don’t publicly say it).

Guys do have strong impulsive sex drives and we are taught to be competitive/independent. But most of us aren’t evil and have zero interest in controlling women.

Catholic priests are sworn to celibacy.

"Father Fernando Ncube allegedly married a woman and kept the relationship a secret to the world, until she felt betrayed."

In an interview she opened up:

“When I started dating him, he did not tell me that he was a priest. I later found out but couldn’t break up with him because I loved him.

I fell pregnant and we decided to get married. My family was shocked at first but accepted the relationship for my happiness.”

"I protected him and kept our marriage a secret to the extent of having conflicts with some of my family members who were not accepting us.

Our marriage was one of the ideal ones. He won everyone’s heart to the extent that even my brother blessed our union.”

But he broke her heart at his home after a party.

“We used to have petty squabbles just like any other couple but for him to try and have sex with my biological mother broke my heart.

Although he is apologising, it is hard to forget,”

“He left our room for the toilet and delayed coming back. I had to follow him to see what was going on. When I passed the room where my mother was sleeping, I saw that my mother had company. I opened the door and I saw him in bed naked,”