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Just to give a brief intro - I noticed this guy randomly gazing and smiling at me. We eventually made friends and he is usually the first one to initiate any interaction. He always looks/stares at me when he walks towards me/in my direction. He holds very strong eye contact when we talk, he smiles a lot when we talk and he teases me. Over the last few days, things have seemed very intense

- We were talking and he more or less admitted that he doesn’t like talking to people in general. I said, “well I must be pretty awesome if you’re talking to me.”, he said “yes, absolutely, you passed the test with flying colours” but did not look at me when he said that.

- We made eye contact and he looked away so quickly/aggressively that I thought his head would fall off

- Yesterday, he walked past me/in my direction three times and each time, I caught him staring at me

- Today, I caught him looking at me a few times and he smiled at me when I looked at him

- I told him that I like his shirt and he smiled, and he was still smiling to himself when I walked away

- he walked past my office and he doesn’t work anywhere near me. He was walking right against the wall and stared into the window at me as he walked past. When I teased him about it, he said “I was bored and going for a walk”, he didn’t have to come by my office.

- we were talking and he stared into my eyes for what seemed like ages

Hi Ladies!

Ok, so true story, a good guy friend of mine once sat at our favorite bar and "outlined" all my attributes for me in a way that was just matter-of-fact, like a lawyer making a case for his client. In closing, he said, "... I've known all this since the first time I saw you. You just light up the room as soon as you walk into it, without doing anything at all. Any guy who can't see and feel that is nuts." He held up his Macallan and toasted me, which made me laugh and nudge him. It was very sweet and meant to get me out of the funk of the nasty things people were saying about me being a divorcee, etc.

Today's the anniv of his passing (RIP 2020, COVID), so he's on my mind. I didn't reject his incredible compliment, but I didn't really accept them and let them sink in till this month. Since this heart to heart five years ago I've had lots of compliments about different things and I always automatically deflect them as something kind the other person is saying. I don't take it to heart. Sometimes if a person goes on and on about something I did I'll blush, quietly thank the person and outline THEIR qualities, indicating that if I'm good at something it's because I have the benefit of working with THEM (which I also truly believe... no one really stands alone 100%). This morning I receive a compliment and I let it sink in a little... to my heart... and it was a great feeling. I think my friend sent this person my way with a kind word because I was feeling glum and remembering all our chats before he passed on...

Anyway, I got to thinking... how many of us don't know how to accept a compliment?

Take a moment to think about the nicest thing anyone's ever said to you. How did you respond? Did you ACCEPT the compliment or DEFLECT it?