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Going to be 30 soon & ask myself why I’m incapable of being in a relationship with a man, people can say that I’m picky but I don’t fully believe I should take all the blame. Female friends I’ve had in the past seem to get dates easier/are okay with putting out & some have unintentionally made me second guess my looks, as they seem to have it easier yet other people have told me I’m equally/more attractive than they are. The last time I “dated” someone was when I was in my early twenties & I’m glad that ended because this guy felt like settling. It justifies that love isn’t blind & it’s better to be alone vs being in a mediocre relationship. I know I’m not all that but I feel like I should be able to attract quality men, all my life I feel like I’ve been invisible to men. I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (don’t count dating apps) & the very few times someone told me that a guy found me attractive (normally a guy I also thought was attractive), they never told me directly & it was always word of mouth.

I feel like I am cursed, that last person I saw in my early twenties was through a dating app & that’s how I’ve met all of these men I’ve met up with. The apps are continually getting worse & they’ve always had a bad rep, getting matches are never an issue it just fails to go anywhere for a number of reasons. And sometimes when I’ve met guys in person & it didn’t work out, there’s just something about them that doesn’t live up to my expectations (even though they look like their pics). I’m unsure if my dating logic is unrealistic, dating apps are the only way for me to meet people & don’t understand how I can be this old & haven’t been in love yet.

The last thing I’ll add is my lack of sex drive, masturbation doesn’t do anything for me & I haven’t had sex since I saw that person back in my early twenties. However, it’s known that some women need to be in a healthy relationship in order to have that *sexual desire*.

He's been in and out my life for 12 years, we were never dating more casual. Then he dumped me, his words were we are done over text. Then the texting started to bait me to respond like want sex and even asked me to have a 3 some when I told him to eff off hed give me abuse and get others to give abuse, so I changed number. Then it was dating sites I used, he'd let me know I knew it was him,, things like *mine* you'll never get better than me *I'll have you anytime anyplace anywhere* in different aliases, Over 2 years hindering me from moving on, then it was kik, I'd delete his chats and ended up deactivating it. Peace until 2 years ago an email I junked that straight away.. Few weeks ago strange email address I didn't recognise so responded. We did chat and met up for sex then he went hot and cold on me. Then arranged meet up again where I stupidly gave him my address, he said he was coming straight after work didn't show, so I sent 3 messages asking where he was, no answer and an email telling him never to contact me again. Then next morning a barrage of abuse, how I was a rat, he didn't trust me, I had mental health issues and he said that he was putting an end to this pronto.. Please tell me he means it? I'm absolutely scared now because he knows I'm capable of cutting him off and now he knows where I live.