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There is a negative stereotype that men are slower to grow up and mature when it comes to how they treat the opposite gender.

Personally I know I think and react differently towards women in general compared to how I was in my teens and early 20s. I am more careful about the comments I make, refrain better from starring too long (if she’s attractive), I communicate better if I am interested or not, I make better thought out decisions and I handle rejection better (and reject others better) compared to the younger version of myself

I also know most women hate the feeling of “being used and/or lied to for sex.” If it’s a hook up or fling I’ll be open about my true intentions even if it costs me want. Not to say I was a liar when I was younger. But years ago I would stay tight lipped if I just wanted one thing when the other girl was thinking we would get in a relationship. In retrospect I recognize that was wrong. Nowadays I don’t give false hope.

That of course doesn’t mean I’m perfect. I will continue to make mistakes. However I am more cognizant of how the other gender thinks now. I also am less likely to get caught off guard if a bad gut sense about something.

With that said I’ve have unfortunately encountered a lot of grown ass women in their 30s and even older that still show blatant immaturity. The worse example is how some of them still play dumb if a guy is interested (and woman isn’t) to exploit the friéndzone for attention and benefits.

I would think a grown woman would know better than to do that. It’s not a sex issue but a respect issue. The guy has only so much time, resources and patience to stick his neck out.

He can handle rejection but being friendzoned is extremely insulting. He will usually figure it out faster than a young man and when he does he will feel exploited.

Just meeting older woman who still believe in this crap is insane.

The guy in question is me and at this point, I think that this is really gonna hurt my chances. It seems that most girls are turned off by a guy with no experience and would rather be with a man who knows how to be in a relationship and how sex works. Another reason is it seems that there’s a concern that he’s either gonna become super clingy since she’s his first partner, or he’s gonna move on fast since he’ll want to make up for lost time. I’ve also had the feeling that if a girl has to show a guy how a relationship works or what to do in bed, it permanently emasculates him in her eyes. Even after he learns, she can never see him as a masculine figure since she had to teach him these things. Now there is a reason why I ended up in this situation, but it seems like the reason for it doesn’t matter most of the time and that girls just take it at face value and will write off a guy with no experience and the reason why he’s that way makes no difference.