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So this is the same guy from my last post, I’ll just start by saying both of us have a massive ego and a lot of pride esp when it comes to texting first.

He works in a fast food shop where I’m a regular customer at. Anyways recently he started ignoring my texts (he told me he doesn’t make time for people that don’t make time for him as I wasn’t meeting him outside work) so I stopped messaging him, he barely messages me first unless it’s to tell me to sneak out of the shop to meet him for a little while as his boss doesn’t allow us to talk. That’s what’s so confusing he can sound so cold and uninterested but will literally risk his job just to see me for a little bit. Needless to say, we haven’t texted in 3 weeks (and I’ve not gone to his shop during this time either) since I stopped messaging first.

i haven’t met him outside work although he’s asked to see me , due to our schedules not being compatible and every time he asked to see me he was inviting me over to his place but it’s like he never wants to talk over text and doesn’t seem interested (over text) . Thing is though he gets so jealous when other guys hit on me and he always stares at me and when we have phone calls he’s so sweet and different.
I sometimes wonder if he’s trying to use reverse psychology to get with me or just trying to get in my pants. However if it was sex he wanted why would he still be talking to me 6 months later when he hasn’t gotten anything sexual from me and I’ve told him I’m waiting until marriage.

He always asks me to come chill at his place and said he’d cook for me and we could watch a movie or something but I don’t go to his place as I don’t want to get used for sex and I can’t tell if that his intention or not. Thing is he works night shifts and sleeps through the day or when he’s free I have classes so that’s really only the option he has but I still think if a guy really likes you he will make time.

Please be brutally honest so I can save myself the heartbreak.

I am part of a new friend group comprised of this guy, his cousin, best friends and their long-term partners. I really like him. I’ve only briefly met him twice. His cousin and cousin’s partner were keen to set us up, so was his best friend and his fiancé. The best friend and his fiancé still are but his cousin and his girlfriend changed their mind claiming we aren’t each others type. I was told by her to leave it at few months for a relationship. She is very obviously bullying the other girlfriends, trying to split her boyfriend from his cousin and friends etc. I honestly don’t trust her. I don’t trust she’s looking out for me.

On Saturday, his best friend and his fiancé (who I am actually now closest to) got us briefly talking. He asked me if I was single, my age (which he knew) and said ‘I’m 24 too! At 24 I feel rushed to … a relationship. How do you feel about it?’ (I can’t remember the actual word he used). He asked about my previous relationships and tried to joke around with me for a bit before cutting the convo as everyone else was putting on their coats. Before our convo, he had randomly put his hand on my shoulder twice when I was just standing beside him and made a point of loudly expressing concern about waiting for me to be collected.

My mother claims it means he’s looking a relationship and feels pressured in a good way. I took it as that. But since, I’ve started to wonder if he meant he feels like he should but it isn’t what he wants. I would like to message him but it’s not worth my time if he means he wants something casual.

What do you think he meant? Should I message him?