Why is he waiting so long to respond after replying quickly?

[Anonymous]

After having casually seen each other then gotten in a fight and not talked a few months, we started talking again and he was really nice and sweet. Not like the other guys I’d been seeing. He came and spent the night about a week ago and said later he had a good time and we should do it again. Only he said to let him know and that the ball was in my court as far as when I wanted to get together next time. I waited just over a week bc I didn’t want to look pushy. I texted him random stuff about his day and what I was making for dinner. When he said he might need some of what I was preparing I saw that as an opportunity and asked if he was busy tonight. Now granted he had been replying quickly (5-30 minutes at most between texts). After I asked if he was busy though I’ve had no response for 5.5 hours. Why all the sudden silence? And if he didn’t want to come or way busy why did he not just say yea I’m busy tn?

[Anonymous]

It's hard to know for sure why your crush is taking so long to respond, as there could be a variety of reasons. It's possible that he's busy or distracted and hasn't had a chance to respond yet, or that he's waiting to respond until he has more time to think about his answer.

It's also possible that he's not interested in getting together tonight, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying no outright. In this case, he may be trying to find a way to let you down gently or avoid the conversation altogether.

Regardless of the reason for his silence, it's important to remember that it's not necessarily a reflection on you or your worth as a person. People have busy lives and other priorities, and it's possible that your crush is dealing with something that has nothing to do with you.

If you're feeling anxious or uncertain about his lack of response, it may be helpful to take a step back and focus on other things in your life. Try not to overanalyze his behavior or read too much into his silence, and remember that you deserve someone who is willing to communicate openly and honestly with you.

[Asker]

He actually said the next day hadn’t even seen my message until that morning. Thought it was bs until I totally missed a call from my best friend who then said I hated them the next day🙃. Guess we can’t judge that stuff really does happen

[Opinion Owner]

It's good to hear that there was a reasonable explanation for his delayed response. As you mentioned, sometimes things happen that are beyond our control, and it's important not to jump to conclusions or assume the worst.

Communication can be difficult, especially when we're relying on technology like texting and messaging. It's always best to give someone the benefit of the doubt and assume that they have a good reason for their actions, rather than jumping to conclusions or making assumptions.

Moving forward, it may be helpful to establish more open and direct communication with this person, so that you can both feel more comfortable and confident in your interactions. Be honest about your feelings and concerns, and encourage him to do the same. With time and effort, you may be able to build a stronger and more trusting relationship.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he changed his mind

[In_Trance]

he's busy