There is this girl I barely know from high school and she's confusing the hell out of me. I want to provide full context so the professionals can do their work. The first time we spoke was not long ago at a coffee shop, we were waiting in line and we just talked about teachers, and school stuff and it was chill. Second time we spoke she was sitting at a table when I walked by and she called me over just to tell me I have the appearance of a musical artist as crazy as that sounds. I responded by asking her what she meant by it, and she demonstrated that she was incapable of explaining in the moment. This all sounds strange so far but I was also very confused at this point. Context matters, and the thing about this girl is that she isn't very extroverted or she's just really laser focused on her studies when she's at school. She almost always sits away from the rest of the girls and doesn't talk to anyone. So anyways, after that odd interaction I approached her a couple days later as she was sitting alone working. We talked about school once again and the state of the world, I did have her full attention and she seemed to enjoy the conversation (though she looked slightly nervous or uncomfortable), when I asked about the remark she made earlier that week she said it was a compliment, and the reason she beleives I look this way is due to my hairstyle and clothing. We talked for like 15 minutes then she said that she needed to finish her school work before the day ended which was completely her choice and no teachers were involved. This last part CONFUSES THE HELL OUT OF ME. Why didn't she want to continue talking? The likelihood that she had to finish her school work before the day ended is super low, should could've just taken it for homework! We haven't spoke since.
She is single
Anyway that's a lot to digest but I think every peice of it matters due to how little I know her. Does she like me? Should I approach her again? It feels weird going up to her a second time.
I think your putting undue pressure on the poor girl. A girl should be able to idly comment you look like a musician without being given, figuratively, the third degree as to why she commented it. Such enquiry leaves a girl feeling very awkward and disinclines them to speaking with you more (though every guys done this sometime in their life, and some guys never move past it).
I get the sense your trying hard to figure out if she's seeing you in a romantic capacity to decide how you want to respond? right?
What you need to do is chill more. Just accept her for her surface interactions and straight forward meanings without trying to read more into them; Just enjoying your moments together. What you've done here (as described) is sort of sour her interests (not ruined anything, just she will feel under undue pressure by your asking her what she's meaning by what she says when probably she's not even too sure just yet how she feels about you either).
Any girl that doesn't quickly try to escape a conversation with you, after you initiate one, has some level of interest in you (ranging from neutral "oh okay" to "ooh good"). Your behaviour can push that either way (increasing it or reducing it). So, what you need to be doing is relaxing and making your times together enjoyable such that is what she remembers and in time she may come to see you in the way your looking for.
Don't worry overly about approching her. Do read her body language to determine if she's open to you but other than that, just relax and interact.
Try to keep your interactions shorter than longer because its easier to develop a raopour when you leave her with a sense of having a good interaction and it not quite being enough or slightly too short (though try to end each one with a reason for going thats due to external forces, like needing to be somewhere so she doesn't get a sense your trying to get away from her).
Best of luck, hope that helps.
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it was just an excuse to do something else. but she was busy, not break up.
No, you don't approach her again unless she starts the conversation.
I mean, what is your ultimate reason why you even want to start a conversation with this lady? What are your motives behind wanting to talk to her?
I presume that your motive would ultimately be to get into her pants if things would move the way you want. Just don't because she is the kind of person that prioritizes her studies over a relationship. You would only do her a disfavor because she could not fully concentrate on her studies as she would have to divide her attention between school and you.
Until she has her degree in her pocket, let her concentrate on her studies and don't try to divert her attention.
I am not surprised. You give me total creep vibes.
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