I am part of a new friend group comprised of this guy, his cousin, best friends and their long-term partners. I really like him. I’ve only briefly met him twice. His cousin and cousin’s partner were keen to set us up, so was his best friend and his fiancé. The best friend and his fiancé still are but his cousin and his girlfriend changed their mind claiming we aren’t each others type. I was told by her to leave it at few months for a relationship. She is very obviously bullying the other girlfriends, trying to split her boyfriend from his cousin and friends etc. I honestly don’t trust her. I don’t trust she’s looking out for me.
On Saturday, his best friend and his fiancé (who I am actually now closest to) got us briefly talking. He asked me if I was single, my age (which he knew) and said ‘I’m 24 too! At 24 I feel rushed to … a relationship. How do you feel about it?’ (I can’t remember the actual word he used). He asked about my previous relationships and tried to joke around with me for a bit before cutting the convo as everyone else was putting on their coats. Before our convo, he had randomly put his hand on my shoulder twice when I was just standing beside him and made a point of loudly expressing concern about waiting for me to be collected.
My mother claims it means he’s looking a relationship and feels pressured in a good way. I took it as that. But since, I’ve started to wonder if he meant he feels like he should but it isn’t what he wants. I would like to message him but it’s not worth my time if he means he wants something casual.
What do you think he meant? Should I message him?
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
2Opinion
Feeling rushed in such a situation is never good, so don't let him do that to you. And be patient too.
Am I better to wait and hope to see him again in the summer or message him but make it clear I want a proper relationship? I really don’t want to miss this opportunity if there is one presenting itself.
I say message him and make it clear what you are looking for. :)
Talk to him and find out
Should I message him or should I wait until I next see him which will probs be in the summer? That way it’s more chill but I could lose my opportunity if he’s feeling me now. I don’t know whether it’s smart to play the waiting game or message him and see
Face to face