My boyfriend has a 2 year old dog that he has never trained has not fixed or anything and he pissed on every item I owned when I moved in with him. My boyfriend lost his job and was evicted so we are staying with his mom right now. His dog has made it impossible for us to stay here in peace as he has pissed on all his moms expensive items and she wants him to get rid of the dog but he says if the dog has to go he does too and gets upset about it. I’ve come to the conclusion through trying to train the dog myself that he is too far gone and it isn’t my responsibility. I’ve tried to look past it but now that he’s working again I’m responsible for a dog I do not want. I have found a place I am working and I am just waiting to be approved but I don’t want the dog to live with me and I know in the end if I talk to him about this he will get upset with me so I don’t mention it. I have been planning on leaving him when I get approved for the apartment but I feel terrible because he has an eviction and won’t be able to find a place to go and ultimately will end up sleeping in his car with his dog because his mom will get tired of his (the dogs) shit but I also know if I put a choice in his lap he would choose the dog. Am I the asshole I mean I don’t want to make him choose but I also have the choice of not wanting my entire apartment to smell like piss like his moms entire house does now. Also how do I break up with him should I just not mention the dog or should I tell him straight up it was the dog. I love my guy he’s awesome besides this fucking dog. And I know he should’ve trained it but the reason he got the dog is cause he was depressed after his ex had a baby behind his back so he sees the dog as a son that was stolen from him so I get it. But also I shouldn’t have to live in piss and mess for this fucking dog that I actually don’t want anything to do with
AITA my boyfriends dog (2yo) is untrained and pisses on everything I own and I don’t want to make him choose?
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You're not the asshole for not wanting to live with a dog that is untrained and urinates on your belongings, especially if you've tried to train the dog yourself and it hasn't worked. It's understandable that you want to prioritize your own well-being and living in a clean, hygienic environment.
However, it's important to communicate your concerns and intentions with your boyfriend in a respectful and honest manner. It may be difficult for him to hear, but it's important to let him know that you don't want to live with the dog and that you've found a place to live where the dog cannot come with you.
As for breaking up with him, it's important to be honest about your reasons for wanting to end the relationship. It's okay to mention the dog and the impact it has had on your living situation, but it's also important to communicate your feelings and concerns about the relationship as a whole.
Ultimately, it's up to you to decide how to handle the situation, but it's important to prioritize your own well-being and to communicate openly and honestly with your boyfriend.