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I've known this one guy since HS, I was a freshman & he was a junior (14 years ago). We went to neighbor high schools but were friends on FB. We were really close or so I felt. He was there for me for my first heartbreak my senior year. During that relationship he confessed his feelings for me. After I graduated we hung out a few times at his place never even kissed but we would cuddle. I liked what we had bc I was afraid if we got into a relationship & we didn't workout then I would lose him as a friend too. He meant a lot to me. 3 years passed & I got into another relationship, this one was toxic & I couldnt talk to him much but when my ex & I got into fights I would reach out to him again. I spent the night at his place once too again nothing happened. Then when I was 2 months pregnant I was in a domestic violence situation with my ex & I had nowhere to go so I reached out to him to stay at his place but this time he said no. he was very cold with me. I was so hurt I removed him from socials and didn't speak to him for years. Another 3 years passed & I moved an hour away. He reached out to me wanting to know about my life & if BD was in the picture. He is not. This time he was in a 2y long relationship. I told him I was hurt because he didn't help me when I needed him. he said it was because he was mad at me for being with someone else & having their baby. I mentioned to him I was moving out of state soon so he suggested we meet one last time & said he could drive the hour to me. I said no & used the excuse that we were still freshly into the pandemic. He added me on social media again & then about a year later removed me. I don't know why. So I messaged him & asked if what I posted had offended him, he said no & that was it. But actually it wasn't I figured since that was the end of our friendship I told him I had had feelings for him previously & the reason I never spoke up about it, that I also felt he was all wishy washy with me. (Continued below)

It's no secret, this a fatherless generation we are living in. Too many people have brown up without their father's in their lives. And nothing is being done to fix the problem. Nobody cares about finding solutions because people don't want to deal with baby daddy drama. So to avoid baby daddy drama some girls just cut yhe dad off to spare her the energy. No baby daddy means she doesn't have to deal Bickering, petty arguments, fighting, begging bim to pull his weight, knit picking from his side, his parenting style that doesn't align with your parenting style and much much that this post alone isn't enough to cover. With that said, if some Fair arrangement is made that doesn't involve you having to see him face to face. But that still allowed for him to see his children when it's his week with the kids. Would you allow him to be part if his kids lives?

Someone at my workplace is undergoing this issue. She broke up with her ex boyfriend but they have a cordial treatment because of their baby girl. The guy is always there for the baby. Their baby is slightly under 4 months old. She doesn't want to be a mother anymore and feels she won't provide the care and love the baby needs. She's thinking about placing their baby up for adoption (to a new family) but the ex boyfriend will oppose and likely request to be handed his baby girl.

If your ex girlfriend doesn't want the baby anymore and is thinking about giving up the baby for adoption, would you accept being a single father? Would you let her give the baby up for adoption or raise the baby yourself?