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It's not like you expect your relationship with the current boyfriend to fail or something. But I mean you secretly keep in your mind 1-2 guys as "backup" in case your boyfriend leaves you or the relationship doesn't go anywhere. Maybe these guys are your exes or someone who you rejected (just because you have a boyfriend) but still has some feelings for you. Could be close friends.

You don't cheat. You just secretly target them in your mind and see them as a potential lover. This is a kind of self protection. Maybe you treat them a bit nicer than other guys. Then if you break up, you open up to them if they're available and still interested (and not jump right to them).

Also do you think it's right to do so?

I remember being attracted to a co-worker who was single, not dating, and I knew she was interested in dating. We were fairly good friends due to havng worked together for 3-4 years and we had many common interests.

I asked her for a date and I heard a classic line that guys hear from women: "But I wouldn't want to take a chance on ruining our friendship." I thought that it was a bull shit excuse and she just didn't have the guts to say she wasn't interested, not physically attracted, or whatever. Why would that be a REAL reason not to date? Most people say that they want to be best friends with their romantic partner, so starting out with friendship means you are halfway there already!

Have you ever asked a friend for a date? Been rejected? Started dating? How did it work out?