Why is it a problem when women want to date tall men only?

Question

So I just read the “Are short girls more attractive?” thread and most of the guys said they find smaller petite girls more attractive and feminine. Which is totally fine. But why it a problem when women say they want to date tall men because they’re more attractive and masculine? Why is there a double standard there? Im 5’6 and Im not upset that most men would rather date women much shorter than me. But 5’6 men get bitter and angry when I reject them and want to date someone at least 5’10.

inhua · Accepted Answer

it's not really a problem. it is a preference after all but the issue usually comes with the bullying and humiliation short guys tend to get exclusively for no other reason than being short (something they can not change).

it's one thing to tell a short guy you're not interested because you're not attracted to him due to lack of height, it's entirely different to tell a short guy to go $#@! himself because you're not attracted to him. granted these are situations of he said/she said and there can be plausible deniability on her part however having seen rude tweets and social media posts of women posting about their disdain for short men, I'd wager that a lot of short guys do face this discrimination more than their taller counterparts.

it's also a fantasy to expect something good to come out of rejection. there's no true feel good way around it. by rejecting someone, you're essentially telling them that you don't believe they should pass on their genes to the next generation, you might not have an issue with someone else passing on those genes but you have psychologically told him that's the case. yes you're allowed to choose who you mate with but they are also allowed to feel the way they feel. so if you find them to be jaded and bitter, there's usually a reason for it whether good or bad but it doesn't just fall out of sky for no reason.

the other problem is when men begin to have preferences of their own such as preferring women who aren't fat, are virgins, has wife qualities i. e. mother instincts, domestic skills etc which can be often regarded as fatphobic, slut shaming and "enforcing" the oppressive patriarchy. why are women's preferences perfectly fine but men's preferences bad then?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

People are entitled to their preferences and can date who they want.
I'm 6'2" and think short girls are adorable. There's nothing wrong with a woman being turned on by tall guys.

The height preference thing is deceiving because preferences are flexible. For example, my wife was a bit taller and had different colored hair and eyes than the imagined ideals I had before we met. But those are minor physical features. I wouldn't reject or rule someone out because of something as superficial as that. She was pretty and I soon fell in love with everything about her.

It's natural for men to prefer shorter women and for women to prefer taller guys. It has to do with sexual dimorphism. Women are, on average smaller. Men are about 5" taller than women on average. American men - 5'9" and women - 5'4".

Women might prefer taller men but, to a 5' tall girl, a guy who's 5'6" seems tall. So the idea that women rule out any men under 6' is absurd.

Adaeva · Accepted Answer

It is not a problem unless your standards are unrealistic. Of course, being female, you can date men, including tall men, that are out of your league but they are not going to marry you. Naturally, if you have average or above looks you can date and marry one of the tall men that are within your league

Jess_D · Accepted Answer

There isn’t a problem. Date who you like. You’re allowed to have preferences. If someone can’t deal with it that’s their problem. They’re going to be miserable anyway so don’t worry about it.

Avicenna · Answer

Height is much more of a factor for women (guys usually don’t reject women for their height) and it’s something you can’t change. I can understand men if that height being unhappy about being rejected because of something outside their control.

A significant minority of men prefer taller women.

But at the end of the day, not all women want to date tall men anyway

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Most guys don't date exclusively short women. Although I have a preference for petite women, I have dated a women who is 5' 9" and I was quite happy with her.

Summeroflove · Answer

This all comes down to preferences and standards. Every person is different. As long as someone doesn’t judge someone as a human being. Fine. You should be attracted to who you’re attracted to

Guy13 · Answer

Not a problem for me, shorty….

AviatorTom · Answer

Not a problem for me, I'm 6-2 (188 cm).

Looksnicholas · Answer

On the positive side here, to spruik my own ego and my own opinion: I'm quite happy being 6 foot 1 inches tall and I'm only two years from turning the magic 30. Anyway.

I haven't even had a girlfriend, so while I'm surprised given my height should make me at least an instant head-turner to some women, it sure hasn't been noticed by me, and I speak from many years of being socially active, and out there, I don't live in my basement no article nor playing video games after work all day either. So shrugs, lol, playfully go figure is my opinion.

I'm 6 foot plus and never had a girlfriend nor been asked my number, so nope, even if I went up to a petite woman, I'm pretty sure they'd say not interested or I've already got a boyfriend.

And that's all cool, because I have more money for me and more time for friends, family, work for overtime, but most importantly all these years and ongoing: I get to have more time for me myself and I :)

Genuinely hooray me. But in short, oh definitely without being mean, I do prefer petite white women similar to my lean build, but petite, where as I am tall, totally. I wish, ha, but oh well, I enjoy single life 😊

MCheetah · Answer

Because height can't be controlled, no matter what, and short men don't deserve to die alone just because of something that is literally out of anyone's control. But whatever; no one is obligated to date men under six feet tall, and "life is unfair" anyway. I get that. But it still doesn't mean we like or accept your sh*tty shallow behavior, even if you're entitled to it.

Also, most men don't care about a woman's height; they care about her figure/weight. And unlike women, most men aren't going to refuse to date women of a certain height. And unlike height, weight can be changed (even if it's kind of shallow to not date someone merely because of a number).

So in other words, tall male height for women is a requirement, while for some men, short female height a bonus. It's not a double standard, cause men are actually flexible about their preferences, and most don't care about height anyway. Not to mention, men do all the chasing and women do all the picking and hold all the selecting. So how TF is it a "double standard" when women wield all the power in the dating world anyway?

This doesn't even matter anyway to you. 5'6" is short/petite on a woman. One more inch and you'd be medium height, but you're not even that. Men don't even care about a woman's height until she's at least 6'0" tall; that's the point where both men start to become attractive to women, and women start to become unattractive to some men. Or, "If your height begins in a 5, you better be a woman, and if it begins with a 6, you better be a man." This is the shallow way society judges people.

Why is it a problem when women want to date tall men only?

D-Pad_Chad · Answer

They were indifferent in that thread, women are obstinate when it comes to the height preference. That's one difference.

Also as of my writing this there was very few replies so it wasn't exactly a robust example.

It's not a problem, everyone has their preferences, women are just exceptionally idiotic with theirs, and it tends to lead to their lonely march to the grave. Whereas men tend to, but not always, have mutually beneficial preferences.

Let's take this height one. 20% of men in the US are 6"0 and it goes to about 4% iirc at 6"2 so right there your preference eliminates 80% of men in the US. The 20% your looking at, most likely, have a rotation. So if you want your back blown out, they'll oblige, but more then likely they won't wife ya.

Niw is the part where you reply with a snarky response, I ignore you and let time reply for me.

Good luck though.

Effably · Answer

You can have whatever preference you want. Your personal likes are not really a prk lem as long as they are legal and safe.

I, as a man, have never heard a shared sentiment that a specific height is better in women. Most of us just don't care as long as it is within the realms of normal.

I can only see it ever becoming a problem if it was unreasonable and a frequent ask. But 5'10 is no issue. If every woman demanded a 8 foot tall guy we'd have a lot of singles. But if you do? No issue at all. Climb that giant.

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

As a short (er) guys, there is no problem. Everyone likes what they like and that completely fine. Some people would get bitter when you reject them, just get over it. Also people would make fun of your preferences if they are ridiculous in their eyes just like you'll do about them. It's fine as long as we don't come in each other's faces and attack each other.

As for the thread you talked, there are two things to catch:

A) There is a smaller amount of guys that prefer a shorter girls vs girls who prefer a taller guy. And these guys are not very tall themselves (I'm 173CM for example) so logically speaking, it makes sense

B) Guys "prefer" these girls and would not reject that is taller while a lot of girls have height as a "requirement".

Hope I made things clear for you.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It’s a realism thing. The things men are attracted to are far more attainable by a larger amount of the female population.

The problem with women’s wishlists is that most of the women who say stuff like that aren’t drawing the line at 5’10. It’s usually more like 6’3, or over. And that’s only a problem because of how insanely small the number of men there are who stand that tall.

You like super tall guys? Awesome, we all like what we like, and I hope you can find your special person. Just be aware that when you like super tall guys, you’re 86-ing a good 90% of the otherwise eligible male population because there is absolutely no way for a man who isn’t naturally tall to make up for the fact he isn’t tall.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

There isn't a problem except that essentially demanding a man who is over 6' is wildly unrealistic. Less than 15% of the male population is 6' or over, which includes very young men, old men, married/committed, all races, rich/poor, gay/straight. If you look at the age, racial, economic, status you actually want, plus 6' or more, your odds of getting this man (for more than just dumping his cum in you) are minimal.

It's this stupidly unrealistic mindset of women that really irritates men's and is exactly why Chad Thundercock bangs his way through women like you the way a harvester cuts through a corn field. #NoSympathy.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not a problem. I'm 6'5" and could care less how tall a woman is. I've been attracted to women ranging from 4'11" to 6'8". If I find shorter women more attractive it's only because shorter women tend to make the MOST EFFORT for ME.

I just think women are SILLY with thier height preferences. And if a woman tells me she won't date a guy under 6 foot it's a turnoff to me. Would you want a guy only dating you for your breasts? Well I don't want to date a woman to date me for my height. So, NEXT!

JDavid25 · Answer

Because if the woman is sexy enough a guy won't reject her because she is taller.. Whereas women who date tall/taller men almost want them exclusively rejecting the shorter guys.. Also it's more of a preference for guys whereas taller guys are almost a requirement for women..

Soremain · Answer

But was it the exact same guys that preferred smaller women but simultaneously were bitter for getting rejected for their height? Because if not, there is no double standard.

You can't take words of some men and then reactions of different men and call it double standard because "Men said this and then men reacted like this". Men are not one unit representing each other with every words and actions.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because in nowadays world anything seems to be a problem that is provocative to some one. Like say your opinion that destroys an imagined harmony and you´re the bad person no matter if it´s right or wrong what you say.
It´s a problem to people that are not what you want. I´ll admit I was like that, too but what I think people forget is that many of them aren´t looking for a harem or a fan club but just one person. Not everyone will like and love everyone.

Berethor · Answer

A man should be at least half-head taller than a woman, so your preference make sense.

Anonymous · Answer

The difference between men and women when it comes to height is that most men do not have an overly obnoxious height requirement. Just because they said they find short women more attractive doesn't mean they would never date a woman your height. It just means a woman who is 5'1" is more attractive than a woman who is 5'8". But you women have insane height requirements that makes men freak out. You know how many times I've seen the infamous "6ft or taller" height demand from women? Even though 6ft men are less than 15% of the male population? Its ridiculous. You as a taller woman still has a significant advantage over a man who's below average height. Its basically universal at this point.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no double standard here. What you as a woman are experiencing is just the backlash against the decades of women calling men the shallow sex. You're just getting a taste of your own medicine, and now you women are whining about getting the same treatment you've given men for many years. Sucks, doesn't it.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

I think it is part of a larger problem of women’s unrealistic, pie-in-the-sky expectations of me. I once had a woman tell me she wanted a man at least 6’ 5”, her old boyfriend’s height. With that one requirement, she has eliminated 99% of men.

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