Why is it so hard for someone to accept that someone is not interested in them?

[Sour-rose]

Sooo let's say someone is gay or... trans... or even pansexual. Yet, there may be a time when a gay person is interested in a guy and the guy says "Yeah, no thanks. I'm not gay." Gay person is mad and throwing a tantrum and guy is just... standing there, guiltless. I'm not different as I was into a guy aaand he rejected me. That burn on my arm hurt but we were on a social chat app... and I uninstall that app a lot. Soo irl, why do some of us can't handle the rejection and accept the person we like is just not into us? It seems to be a difficult thing to handle and think the person is just being... rude? I don't know, there's many things upset people call it. Do you have any idea why it be like this?

[Rosexøxø]

Well, yeah, anyone could be asked and say these sentences:

“Some people just won’t prefer me. I’m not their type.”

”why don’t they like me/ f them.”

At a glance, it is logical,

but emotionally, it is hard to comprehend.

When someone doesn’t like us, we feel something wrong, and as if the best about us is “not good.” Something must be “broken or not working.” How could anyone dislike greatness.

“Is it possible we are not that great?” Is what we consider.

When going through it, it can feel like a personal attack. If they don’t love us, they don’t have our best interest in mind, so we may automatically assume they are trying to “hurt us.”

We struggle to associate that *many other people have different definitions of ‘great’* and a LOTTTT of that is *dependent* on what they grew up around and grew up without.

In fact, it’s nearly, entirely, situational and developmental, and not the FINAL JUDGEMENT OF GOOD AND EVIL

PERFECT AND IMPERFECT.

People just need to realize the truth, and it’d help them a lot better if they didn’t feel as if the other person was their EVERYTHING, and that they GAVE THEIR ALL, for it to be “just” turned down.

Preference is subjective and not something like: a “one size fits all.”

[Labokachulaa]

It's an ego thing, they cannot take rejection. They have a sense of entitlement. In their head, "you can't reject me because I want you". That's how it works for some people. It's scary because that can become very dangerous.

[SnowedIn]

You ask a great question.

I think part of the answer (not all) is that no one likes to be rejected. Just in general. But then add on that we tend to think that something must be wrong with us for them to have rejected us. And we're certain that we can convince the other person that we really are awesome.

Another part of it is a version of the grief process. When we care about someone, we invest emotionally in them. When we're rejected, we have to get past that. It includes sadness anger doubt etc. The difficulty accepting the rejection is part of that grief process.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[inhua]

I don't know? maybe because it indicates something is wrong about them?

people doing the rejection would also have this same mindset that there's something wrong with the person they just rejected because let's face it, a perfectly ideal partner would not get rejected.

[Guy13]

People are prideful and in love with Self, hence, Selfie Generations. Not everyone likes your Self.

[CrazyGirl2]

Because we live in a society that values narcissism!

[Agape93]

They feel entitled. That's why I keep saying people are too coddled.

[Charliefretz329]

Obsession and hurt pride

[Msputiton]

Ego.