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28F, I’m leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like a runway model & guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches have never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person?

He was away at college, that is where I knew him from. We were kinda friendly acquaintances, but generally had some low key sexual tension. He began to express more clearly that he was interested in exploring that side with me. I told him I was seeing other people bc I didn’t want him to feel played, an he said it didn’t matter to him. Since I live 30 minutes from campus he just spent the night. Yes, we hooked up and we slept in the same bed—twice except we didn’t go all the way the second time. Also had a couple head sesh’s/FaceTime/sexting. He’d call me boo & baby & send cute emojis. But 3 times he’d delete or block me and then reappear claiming his phone was messed up and you know I wouldn’t delete you boo... He graduated this term and deleted me again an I didn’t hear from him for a bit. I thought we’d had a little misunderstanding an never got to say bye so I sent a fairly long text saying I understand if he’s moving forward but was sorry I didn’t get to say bye an I enjoyed our times together an he’s the best. He sent back kind of a formalish but friendly reply thanking me for helping on his journey and being there an time together. That I was the best and he’d never forget another me that I know that. Sent back a 💞 an we didn’t talk since.

Fast forward 2 months later this girl adds me on tiktok. I accept an add her back. It’s when I start watching her videos that I discover she’s been dating this guy before last semester even started. One even showed her gushing over the texts he’d sent her like the same months we were hanging. I still wonder what made her add me to begin with but here’s the problem. Clearly I was a fling it’s fine, but I feel bad for her. Obviously he was playing both sides of it an that’s probably why he’d delete me. Should I tell her, especially since I no longer have the texts that clearly show him cheating. Or should I just let it go as him deleting me with no further contact shows he’s straightened up and being loyal now?

28F, I’m leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like a runway model & guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches have never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person?