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Like say you're not the type of guy that wants relationships, whereby you're more comfortable with a friends with benefits arrangement. Would it still hurt your feelings if you asked a girl if she wanted to be friends with benefits with you, and she said no?

My initial assumption is that you wouldn't care too much, given the lack of investment you'd have to give in order to achieve friends with benefits vs. actual girlfriend.

Would it make a difference depending on her reasoning (ex. she doesn't think the two of you are compatible, whereby she implicitly would do it with someone else; she only does serious relationships AND OR she would prefer to have a serious relationship with you)?

I met him in high school. I had a crush and we were friends but he didn’t seem interested. Then suddenly, randomly one day he did, I don't know what happened. He invited me to his prom, he was super chivalrous. We went on a few dates (this started towards the end of us being in high school and carried on into the first year of being in college) he treated me well but I didn’t feel a spark. He paid for our food or whatever we did, and I enjoyed his company but didn’t see it going anywhere. I didn’t wanna hurt his feelings but I couldn’t keep seeing him, especially with him paying I wouldn’t wanna take advantage of him. Anyways I got to the point I just made excuses when he asked to do something cause I was afraid to hurt his feelings even though I probably did regardless. Eventually he stopped messaging me and we haven’t talked since. I’m s few years wiser now. I can look back and see he treated me MUCH better than the guys I’ve been with since. I knew at the time he was such a good guy and I was so mad at myself for not being in love with him, I should be. Any girl would be lucky to be with him. Anyways, I wanna reach out and at least apologize and maybe give it a another chance, if he would even give me the time of day. I’m nervous too though, and I’m nervous to give it another shot and still just not feel any thing and potentially hurt him again, although this time around I would give him an explanation instead of just ghosting. Should I give it a shot or leave it alien?