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So probably some if you are gonna say “hey yeah women ask me out awesome 😃 I don’t have to do anything…”

They just come up to me. Let’s gooooo 🥳 but.. that is not how it works.

You may like someone. You may be uncertain if they like you. They may be really shy. They may take a long time to get to asking you out. They may play games. They may assume you don’t like them…You.. may be in limbo for months. & yeah, you can just move on but___how often have you REALLY been interested in someone and then just said OK I’ll just move on because you know, ‘they’re not saying anything’🫤

It’s normal and healthy to go after what you want within reason. and even if you have someone out and they say no, there’s a satisfaction in that there’s dignity and knowing that you made an effort, you did what you could you tried your best and now you haven’t answer and you can move on and get on with your life.

That is an entirely different feeling to just kind of waiting around and seeing nothing really happening. You’re not sure but you’re pretty sure.. it’s almost like you’re pretty much sure…finally you just kind of fade off into the future, without closure, Knowing you did nothing.

Maybe your dream girl will ask you out. Maybe she’ll do it fast, maybe not 🤷🏻‍♀️ the point is you relinquish agency to her.

Getting a yes, is absolutely the best thing but no is a very close. Second nothing or confusion is the absolute worst.

So I’m not asking you how would you enjoy being asked out—I’m saying how would you feel if it was socially unacceptable for you to ask women out. That maybe they will, maybe they won’t but you can’t do anything on your own or you can but then people will think you’re a loser and women won't date you because they think you’re weak or Desperate bc you ashes them out.

How would you feel in the situation? Try to be honest. You might like it but think about it realistically… the pros, the cons etc and tell me how you feel.

Thank you.

New scenario and a followup to the parent question (in which I said I would disown both the friend and parent)… I never understood why some guys/girls wouldn’t be cool with their friend dating their sibling. Like why are they good enough to be a friend but not good enough to be an in-law?

I fell for a lot of few of my best friend’s brothers and although the friend was supportive because they knew I had good intentions, their parents felt otherwise. With one friend, her mom constantly referred to me as her “daughter” but the moment I took interest in her son (which she didn’t find out until like years later when my mom ratted out our interest in eachother) then the mom said I was no longer allowed to come over to her house. I didn’t understand why i was good enough to be her “daughter” but not her “daughter in law”. It was even more weird because her youngest son liked my little sister and she seemed supportive of that. I liked her middle son and he seemed to like me but was shy about it while her oldest son made it clear that he liked me. And she had an issue with either of them liking me.

So for those who would not want their friends dating their siblings, why not if you trust them enough to befriend them? (And just for this scenario, pretend that your friend and sibling are in the same age range to make things less awkward. And if you don’t have a sibling just pretend you do) #FeelFreeToList