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I always said that I’d be willing to date someone with 1 child as long as that kid was young enough to accept someone coming into their parent’s life but old enough to already be potty-trained.

Last year I was on the verge of dating a guy with a kid, and they both got really attached to me like literally week 1. The child turned out to be bad af and had a habit of wetting the bed. But I still cared for her and her dad. Oddly enough, he and I even had the same birthday. But I only saw us being friends. And then the kid started telling me stuff that made me fear he was abusive like his ex said. Anyways, I had to get away from that.

Now I’m kind of interested in this one guy but I just found out that he has 3 kids, all boys, and they all look old enough to be potty trained lol. I found out about them elsewhere, but he’s yet to mention that he’s even a da. I assume its cause we’re pretty early into getting to know one another and maybe he thinks women will run once they find out. But I don't know we’re getting along pretty well and I’m just wondering if I want to go this route of possibly dating someone with kids, especially with it being 3 kids. If I do this, he’d definitely be the exception to the rule… I just hope there’s no baby mana drama
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Me and my friend have had similar age preferences for years and that was to stick to men our age. I’m 40, she’s 39. People have been telling us for years to date men who were several years older than us. This includes our parents, aunts and uncles, each other’s parents, family friends, church members, etc. she’s even had friends our own age tell her that she should be dating older men (or so she says). I decided to give it try last spring after my same age boyfriend who had two kids and massive debt dumped me for being “too good” for him (I supported his broke ass financially), and I can say my luck changed drastically. Current guy is 55 years old and we both agreed we’re stuck with each other. At the end of summer, I had a party and invited my friend (recently heartbroken about being dumped but a guy our age for a younger girl), my boyfriend, all of his friends and all of their wives LOVED her. Every one of them and myself all thought she was perfect for a friend of theirs who was looking for someone just like her, so we agree to try to fix them up (the friend had met her once before at a charity event we were working). BF’s friend is also 55, retired, financially secure, gets a pension every month, good Christian, still works part time, has his house paid off and is looking for a woman to spoil rotten. So we pitch the idea to his friend, and the friend’s response is “that girl is a catch! She’s a nice girl with a good heart, she’s doing something with her life and she’s ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL! Yes, please fix me up with her.” I mention it to her and try to convince her to no avail, she won’t date him just because he’s 16 years older than her. I told her she needs to be dating men in their 50’s and early 60’s, not our age. She said NEVER. I told her then that she’s a stubborn asshole who’s throwing away a good guy. Opinions? I want to show this to her to make her realize this is true. Women have been marrying older men for years so it clearly works.