Guys, He lied to me for a year about being married with a kid why?

[Anonymous]

I met a man last year and we started dating. Had a great relationship and we seen each other often. We did however live a few hours apart but would travel to see each other. He told me he lived with his brother, and I had even chatted with his brother a few times via FaceTime. The further into our relationship when we wanted more time together like spending weekends together we decided to get a hotel together that way we’d have our privacy so we weren’t there with his brother. This worked for us. We had our alone time and everything was great. We discussed me moving closer to him. Just how much we missed each other when we weren’t together and we talked every single day. He truly was the man of my dreams. I thought. I recently went to stay with him for the weekend and we planned our whole weekend. Had a great time and upon leaving the hotel I discovered via Facebook a sellers page, once on there I noticed a lady who had a man on her profile that looked like my bf…he doesn’t have fb…I clicked on her page and it was him! Upon looking I realized they had been together for years! He was married! And recently had a baby just before we started talking, he never mentioned any of to me!! He mentioned having an older child but not this one? Why hide a child from me? Why hide a whole life? What could have been this man’s purpose with me? Do you think he had intentions on leaving his wife? Was he just having his cake and eating it to? He never lived with the brother by the way it was all a lie. A whole year a lie. Someone help me? I told the wife. She thanked me and I gave her everything I had of proof of the affair. I’m heartbroken, I cared for this man soooo much. A part of me misses him and wants him back so bad. I loved him but he lied and basically cheated on me as well even though he cheated on his wife with me. I feel cheated too. A whole year of my life was a lie. Advice please!

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, that's a seriously messed up situation. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now - heartbroken, betrayed, confused, all of the above. That guy straight up lied to you for a whole year, like what the actual fuck?

It's good that you confronted him and told his wife, she deserved to know the truth. But that doesn't make it any less painful for you. A whole year of your life was built on a lie, and that's gotta be devastating.

I don't think this guy had any real intentions of leaving his wife or being with you long-term. He was probably just getting his kicks on the side, having his cake and eating it too. What a sleazeball. Dude's a cheater and a liar, and he clearly doesn't have any respect for the women in his life.

As much as a part of you misses him and wants him back, you gotta remember that he's not the man you thought he was. All those feelings you had were based on a complete fabrication. This wasn't a real relationship, it was just him using you for his own selfish needs.

The best thing you can do now is try to get some closure and focus on healing. Surround yourself with the people who really care about you, and don't be afraid to lean on them for support. You've been through a traumatic betrayal, so be patient with yourself as you work through the grief and anger.

In time, you'll be able to look back on this and see it as a blessing in disguise. This dude showed you who he really is, and now you can move on and find someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. Hang in there, girl. You got this.

[ProbablyClueless]

He lied because it was convenient. He lied because he wanted you around and saw lying as a way to keep you around.

[strateguy632]

Because he wanted se ks.

[David5668]

Because he’s a W ⚓️

[Anonymous]

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