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I just read her update on reddit:

https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/yozb12/my_husband_40_m_and_i_39_f_are_working_things_out/

- She cheats in 2002 with the guy's friend. She was 19 at the time. They were boyfriend and girlfriend.

- The guy forgives, she betters herself, hever cheated since, they get married later on and have 3 kids.

- 20 years later, this time the husband cheats with his co-worker but for different reasons, unrelated to her old cheating.

- The guy falls in love with his co-worker, he exchanges texts about traveling to Paris with her and leaving his kids, spends money on his affair (even steals and uses some of his wife's money) and takes his wife's meals and desserts to feed the woman

- Everything backfired in the end; his AP partner was using him for money. They're currently working things out. She's sounds upset on her post though.

I just got back from reddit, reading about both the wife's and husband's versions.

The wife's version:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/xu9wga/i_feel_my_husband_m_40_is_likely_cheating_now_and/

She cheated with the guy's best friend when she was a 19 year-old college freshman. They were boyfriend and girlfriend and he catches them in his own house. He literally walked in on them. She gets forgiven and years later the guy still marries her.

The husband's version:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/xwvpg0/i_cheated_on_my_wife_and_im_nervous_dont_know_how/

He cheats 20 years later (the guy is now 40 years old) when they already have 3 kids (their oldest child is 14 years old) and been married for 15 years. His cheating is unrelated to her cheating. He cheats because he's having a mid-life crisis and wanted to see what it was like being with another woman. He cheated with his co-worker, ended up loving the other woman but finds out she was using him for money. During the time he was cheating he would be drunk in front of their kids.

Which cheating is worse to you, cheating as a 19 year-old girlfriend and getting caught with the guy's friend or cheating as a 40 year-old man married with 3 kids and coming home drunk?