Am I wrong for saying I'd text the lady he cheated with?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I got into it. I told him I was gonna text a lady he cheated on me with because she kept texting him even on vacation about a baby and I'm like does she even have a baby? So he kept saying no but she was very persistent. I told him I was gonna text her off a random fake number but he got mad and was gonna withhold an engagement ring. I didn't know what was true or not, but I didn't wanna be committed to someone that had a baby on me. I forgave him for the cheating but I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Why would you stay with a cheater? If he even cared about you or even respected the relationship he has with you he never would have in a million years cheated on you. Cheating isn't a mistake it is choice and he chose to stick his D in her knowing full well he was hurting you the very moment he slept with her. And now he is being controlling telling you he is withholding the engagement ring if you contact this lady. Clearly he doesn't want you contacting her because he has a child with her or they are still sleeping together

[Asker]

Apparently they don't have a baby and yeah cheating is wrong. Yeah with holding a ring because he doesn't want me to contact her is just fucked up and controlling.

[JessJJ]

They've obviously got a baby together. Either let it go or leave.

[Asker]

She told me she didn't and that her and her friend were trying to meet up with him. She texted me about a baby but every time she texted him she wanted to meet up.

[justEric]

Since you're clearly still in doubt, I think you should look after the truth to be sure you can get in this commitment. Even if there isn't a baby, this thought might get in your mind constantly and affect the relationship that was already shaken because of the betrayal. He's in the wrong side and he should prove there's nothing to be worried about the other woman, his behavior of avoiding that you get in touch with her is comprehendible, but to be in doubt in a moment so important is potentially more harmful

[Asker]

I'm not in doubt but it was messed up. He was being an asshole. She told me she didn't have a baby and she kept harassing me about one. So I told her if she doesn't leave me alone I'd report her to the police and she didn't even show me a pic of her and the baby just pics of random babies and they weren't they same. She never texted him about a baby just tried to see him.

[slatyb]

Is this fun? Do you think that being married will somehow make it better? End this and find someone you trust.

[Asker]

Pffft I doubt it, just seems like a lot of drama.

[slatyb]

Leaving the relationship? Rip off that band-aid. You can do it now or years from now.

[Mart10]

You should call her. It's completely normal. And he sounds like he's hiding something more

[Asker]

He was being a dickhead, but I talked to her and she said she didn't have any baby. He cheated like back in 2019 with her but recently she showed me a baby that looked like a few months old and it looked like I saw that same baby off Instagram

[scooogy]

You should figure out what's more important to you here.