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My boyfriend of 7 years doesn’t have me on Facebook. Removed me when he tried to cheat years ago then never added me back when we got back together. At the time he tried to cheat everything was made super private from me.

At his work yesterday they stalked his Facebook and found ugly photos and brought it up in their “staff meeting”. It was a girl who I assume he’s into that stalked it and asked for it to be brought up.

Did he go private to hide it from his work friends who has already seen it. Or did he hide it specifically from me so I couldn’t see if they had liked it to find their facebooks? So he could cheat in peace again?

I can’t see him hiding it from his work friends

And the girl that stalked him is immature enough to add him and like it and he’d want that hidden from me for some reason. Even tho his own words is “were leagues apart” I’m so much prettier but then he doesn’t care about pretty just wants a decent person.

He called me immature for being bothered that they stalked his Facebook to find photos of me his girlfriend to see what I looked like … I was so embarrassed people still do that. They are only 19-20 and we’re 26. They expected me to look “stressed” at my age.

Some people say it's hidden racism.

Some people say it's culture (people with different race/ethnic background can have the same culture and pretty much experience the SAME things or similar!).

Some people say it's because they are scared of what their parents/family would say if they dated someone outside their race.

What do you really think it is? And does it disappoint you or frustrate your or make you angry sometimes like it does for me? I mean, it's not like I can CONTROL what ethnicity/race I was born with!

It's just something I noticed in recent years, weirdly enough, versus back in the 2000's, 2010's or older!

I'm a black woman my boyfriend is white. As a woman I've watched his gaze and he never looks at woman that look like me. He usually looks at blonde hair blue eyes white girls or if he does stare at a black girl she's lighter and thinner I'm neither of these girls. It's almost like a lighter or whiter skin tone captures his eyes I'm dark and bigger. "The girls in your IG and FB never look like me" it makes me feel bad like I'm not good enough or I'm not pretty enough. Should I feel insecure? He compliments me tells me I'm pretty and got but I don't know... Please explain why he told me that if we weren't together he'd hurt on me but I don't believe it I laughed and he did too