Am I wrong for ignoring my boyfriend for a few hours? Any advice on what to do next?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have this friend, let's call her Laury. Laury is the flirty toxic type, she constantly tells me about her plans to get guys which I heavily advise against. Laury has started doing this thing where she flirts with my boyfriend like telling him about how big her boobs are and sending random pics of herself. Yesterday my boyfriend made a joke by sending a picture of Laury and pretending to be her. He sent this🤓 which was implying that it was her, which in response I said kind of looks like you. Then he went on to say some other things in which I didn't participate in, although I told him that she was pretty all the same. The next day or so she replies to my message saying "kys" ignoring what he said, so I sent a clown emoji, to which she responds with 🤔, I then time her out because I had enough, which I put as the reason for which I did it. My boyfriend then untimes her out and says "why is laury timed out" so I do it again and he undoes it, in which she respond with "thanks -insert boyfriend's name- 🥰🥰" and I put 😐, to which she responds "what -insert my name-". A little while later my boyfriend decides to ask me if I want to call now and I said ok to which he asks me what's wrong. I say nothing and I then say I'm ready to call. He replies with in a bit I'm calling Laury. At that moment she has the audacity to completely forget everything that happens and asks me to sleep with her, in which I responded "i'm sure you have plenty of other options 🌚" after 30 mins or so my boyfriend calls while i'm in the shower. When I get out I say "I'm going to pass on second thoughts." to which he replies saying "why". I say "I don't feel like talking" and he asks "Have I done something wrong", and proceeds to change his pfp to Laury's face. It's been 4 hours away from being 24 hours but I haven't responded to him, I've voiced my concerns to him about Laury but he always says its okay we're just friends. He's cheated before so I do have reason to suspect smth

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

Well reading this got me irritated for you too. BUT here is the little misstep you might have done to add to it. And it will help in the future because you have control over it.
at -"Why is ---- timed out" if you could have replied, "I had enough for now I need a brake before I blow up and do something I regret!!!" or something similar. Then time her out again. He (they both) might have seen that you are getting upset with it.

at - "he asks me what's wrong."you said "nothing" you could have said "why when I am ready to talk you talk to someone else FIRST. AND THEN call me back and say you are ready. But listen I moved on. I got my nails to do, dishes to wash and other things more important now. See how that works?" or something like that.
But listen I thank you for showing me how stupid men can be. I learned here that It would be better to ask first before timing out someone. And put you first when you are ready to talk. I will certianly use that if I ever get a chance with a decent lady.

[SiberFox]

You end with "he's cheated before". Start with that next time, why oh why are you still with this POS, he gets his cake amd eats it too.
He doesn't respect you, don't waste your time with him.

[HollyK21]

I would drop them both. A real friend like she’s supposed to be would never ever openly flirt with your boyfriend the way she does. As for him, he should not have that sort of dynamic with your friend, especially doing separate phone calls talking about god knows what. Even the fact that you three are in a group chat carrying on like a polygamous relationship (if that’s not what you want) is ridiculous. But I’m not surprised since you are all in high school. Anyway, they’re both toxic asf unless she stops trying to third wheel in your relationship then I’d let them have each other and be done.

[Asker]

Laury and I are in high school but he's already graduated. Where I'm from once you turn 14 you can date anyone within 5 years of your age. Thank you for your advice

[HollyK21]

Honestly I mentioned the age thing to give a bit of grace, knowing in that age range these are your first experiences and you’re navigating them the best way you can. But knowing he’s older, it just seems more like he’s taking advantage of two younger girls, because the ones who aren’t in high school usually will not go for that bs. I hope you do more than just giving him the silent treatment and opt to end that situation. Knowing that he’s already cheated, and openly flirts back and forth to your friend whether it’s with words or emojis is just so unacceptable. You can do a lot better.

[Jumpin4blue]

I totally agree with Holly. If he's willing to openly flirt with your friend knowing that you're seeing it, i'd be worried about what he's doing without you knowing. I would not put up with that at all.

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

@Jumpin4blue Ditto I completely agree.

[Avicenna]

He’s cheated on you before? Dump his sorry ass before it happens again.

[Guy13]

Sounds like you brought it on yourself.

[Guy13]

You keep hanging out with friends like her then you will keep attracting guys like him who thinks he can play all you FOOLS like a Fiddle

[Talkingtotheone]

i don;t waste my time

[Anonymous]

oh grade school drama

[Anonymous]

Drop him, move on.

[baserunner611]

If tonic a friend?