Who was in the wrong? and do you think his behavior is controlling and manipulative?

[Anonymous]

hi guys! last night my boyfriend and i were watching yellowstone. in the first few mins of the show something cheesy was said so i said it was cheesy and laughed or more scoffed actually, and my boyfriend instantly got mad and kept denying being mad but he repeatedly asked "WHAT ELSE DO YOU WANT TO WATCH" and insisted on changing the channel. I told him more than 10 times i do want to watch the show, there's other movies and shows that have cheesy bits but are fun to watch, and he ignored me and put some random movie on and ignored my pleas. after legit 10 times he ASKED me "oh you want to watch are you sure?" as if I didn't just tell him ten times in a row that I DO want to see the show. I was pissed at this point and snapped, "you're being fucking childish I just told you repeatedly I want to keep watching and you ignored me and changed the channel" (which i think is controlling of him) and he instantly lashed out and got in my face saying "DONT YOU EVER FUCKING TALK TO ME LIKE THAT AGAIN" and threw the remote towards me on the bed, and exploded and then went on a tirade screaming things like "YOU STUPID FUCKING IDIOT SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU DUMB DISGUSTING CUNT YOU STUPID FUCKING BITCH YOU ARE AN IDIOT SHUT THE FUCK UP" while making aggressive pointing and slashing hand gestures with his neck veins popping from anger. then he kept screaming at me "you're THE PROBLEM THAT WAS YOUR FAULT YOU HAVE FIVE SECONDS TO TAKE IT ALL BACK AND ADMIT WHAT YOU DID WRONG IM NOT APOLOGIZING FOR SHIT" then started to COUNT DOWN FROM FIVE whilst yelling at me like a crazy person and calling me controlling (isn't demanding an apology within 5 seconds the most controlling thing?) and while I acknowledge I should not have responded to his passive aggresive behavior of ignoring me and changing the channel despite me saying I still want to watch, by cursing and calling him a child, but I thought his behavior was far more egregious and want an outsider's perspective on the whole ordeal.

[Lliam]

Yes, it's disrespectful, controlling, and extremely abusive. He has no control over his emotions and is too immature to be in a relationship.

You should have quietly gotten up, gotten dressed, packed your things, and left. And never speak to him again.

Are you going to put up with that? He'll pull that shit again, I guarantee.

[Asker]

you are right. he is disgusting and pathetic and a waste of space. he literally started the problem with his passive aggression. he was raised by a mother who was a meth whore and had her first kid at 15 who became a stripper and his dad is also single after they both had multiple horribly failed relationships, his entire family has issues and drama.

[SnowedIn]

His behavior is terrible.

I wouldn't ever see him again.

[kylee2437]

I think both of you are being childish and don’t know how to talk too each other in a respectful manner.

[Asker]

right. but who do you think started it? he was being passive aggressive and it's frustrating to constantly put up with which is why I said he's being childish even though it was not respectful to say.

[kylee2437]

@rachelcarterr444 see the “he started it” mindset is childish in itself. You both need to learn to be respectful to each other and the only way to do that is by politely asking him to talk about how you two currently communicate to each other. Your relationship will eventually fail if you don’t step up

[Asker]

it isn't childish because he kept insisting I apologize for starting it so I am pointing out the irony. I responded with a little lashing out but did not escalate to the point of throwing things at him and name calling like he did.

[Asker]

I tried and he said "well if you dont want to get called a bitch then dont act like one"

[DextroShade]

You should probably start looking for a new boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

I assume boyfriend was the one who asked you out

[Asker]

oh you mean like he tried to get me in the beginning? yes absolutely how did you know lol

[WhitneySnow]

His behavior is awful