Search Results: no sex in the relationship

So I have a profile. My photos are not revealing, not at pubs, etc. They show me doing a variety of decent things, etc. Like playing fetch with my German Shepherd dog

And yet the majority of men who contact me are obviously more after sex than they are after establishing a relationship. It's their rushing/push to meet, something they say, or something else that raises a red flag and when you follow up on that cue makes them unappealing.

Like for example this one guy. He asked me if I preferred to take things slow or "jump right into it". I responded slow... he responds with "you have to let me take you out to lunch Saturday". This was on Friday, we'd talked for a meager 1 day on the site.

I've even had men in entirely different states or provinces message me - I'm on the east coast of Canada & had people from British Columbia, Texas & Florida to name some - asking if I visit the area anytime. There's no pursuit to be a "penpal", and develop a rapport, just feeling out - by the way it's wording every time - if be interested in a hookup & go home.

I met an amazing guy, who is my age.
My dad does not agree with the relationship because he thinks I'm being lustful and emotional and taking my focus off my education, which is funny because he never took the time to ask me how I'm going with my studies but the minute he knows I'm in a relationship he says that even after I told him that my grades have improved and that I go better in school ever since I've been with this guy.

I have an African dad, and most African people or at least Nigerian people, when they hear relationship they think immediately of sex outside of marriage. And me being in a relationship at 18 is like me being rebellious and thinking I can do whatever I want because I'm 18, that's what my dad thinks. But the reality is that I met this guy now at 18 and I couldn't let the chance go.

He tries talking me out of this relationship he does not care about the fact that I'm genuinely happy and that many things have improved in my life... for once I do not have to deal with everything alone. All he cares about is me being submissive and taking his word as law.

My aunty called and said the same thing and basically that I'm too young and that I should just focus on my education. I just feel stressed, overwhelmed and misunderstood.

Even when it comes to lust or sex... as a Christian couple we talked about these things and we have boundaries and our thoughts aren't focused on those things at all because we believe that things like that should be done in the confines of marriage.

But yet, nothing, almost as if no one other than my mom and close friends understand.

I feel overwhelmed because I've always wanted a guy like the guy I currently have right now yet it's like I can't be happy.

My dad, and my aunty and I'm sure my other close relatives will continue to say the same thing, they make me feel young and stupid, I'm even tired of standing up for myself and relationship. It is exhausting, I just want to be happy, I don't know what to do.

Which zone do you think it's the worst one?

The friendzone; you'll always been seen as a platonic friend by that person or others. It'll never progress to dating. No romantic interest.

The fuck zone; it's usually where the girl develops an interest and feelings for someone that only sees her as someone to have fun with but will never ask her nor progress to something serious beyond just sex. No relationship interest.

The forever girlfriend zone; yeah she's in a relationship but he'll never propose nor have kids with her. She's hopelessly waiting for it but it'll never happen. He's just a girlfriend to enjoy for the meantime but he'll always have one foot out the door.