Did I lose or did he lose?

[Anonymous]

I was dating a guy since August. We were polar opposites. He 25 and slept with 15+ women and been in threesomes while I'm a virgin. This made our relationship more interest. We had intense chemistry and a special connection (so I thought). But a week ago, he asked me"will you sleep with me soon and come to my place. if not let's get naked and cuddle?" I told him I want to wait for marriage. I maybe I scared him off but I didn't mean marriage with him. Next day he wrote me a goodbye text with no explanation and deleted me off everywhere and blocked me. HE knew I was waiting since August! Why didn't he cut me off then. He would go about how it was my choice and he respected it. He knew I've never been alone at a guy's place.

-Last conversation we had he said, "I dont think it's hot that you're a virgin. I think you are hot and you turn me on so much." And he told me before he usually sleeps with women right away and doesn't wait more than a month for sex.

So my question is did I lose this or did he lose me because I am probably the first woman to turn him down? I've been crying all week because he left me like an abandoned dog but then today I realized that I was probably the first woman who said no to him and maybe thats why he was upset and deleted me in a form of punishment? can anyone give me advice on this situation offer different perspective.

[Summeroflove]

Yikes. Seems like he doesn’t have good morals. You seem to. You have boundaries and he’s a perverted creep.



There are plenty of whores out there who would happily sleep with him. He needs to leave a good woman like your self alone and not waste your time.

You need a man with the same morals and values as yourself. Not saying he has to be perfect. Bur good upstanding person.




You need to dump him. It’s predatory to keep bringing up sex after you said NO. You’re right. He’s probably used to getting his way unfortunately. Maybe you taught him a lesson.


Dump him. He’s no good for you and wants to use you. I can’t even stand him by what you said.


He can’t take no for a answer and feels entitled to sex. You could even be in danger if he keeps pushing it

[Asker]

He blocked me in all social media. He changed his Instagram. I can’t find him. He really hurt me. After he said it was “my body my choice.” We talked about sex like adults but he knew early on that I wanted to wait. He should have cut the contact then and there ant not led me on

[Summeroflove]

He’s a piece of shit. The best thing he ever did to you was get out of your life.

I’m sorry he hurt you. If a guy wants sex early on. It’s a major red flag. Plus if someone pushes it and pushes it it becomes predatory after you said no….

[D-Pad_Chad]

So I don't believe in legal marriage. However, let me be clear I do believe in lifetime commitment, but government policies have perverted a beautiful thing and many women of ill repute take advantage of those and turn divorce and child support into a business model for making money!

That being said this man sounds like a sleeze right from jump, but I can't blame him entirely since you said yourself you saw the red flags ahead of time, but ignored them for... reasons?

I don't think either of you lose on this, but I do think it's a lesson learned. Don't try to make a ho into husband/house wife.

I hope you grow wiser and stronger and that in the future you won't ignore the warning signs. Hopefully you'll find someone that'll make you happy. One last thing, most men prefer virgins. He's the exception not the rule.

[TheFlak38]

slut alert

https://www.youtube.com/embed/M5QGkOGZubQ

[Vikkrram]

Not he looses and not you.

[Anonymous]

You are definitely better off without him.