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My boyfriend (22) and I (18) have been together for a little over a month now, and it's going pretty well, he tells me he is ready to settle down which is a huge reassurance to me as he is not dating me just to date but to settle down. We know each other through mutual friends you can say, I met him through my older sister's fiancé. Everything for the most part has been going pretty smoothly we have a few arguments here and there that do kind of concern me for the reason being we are so fresh into our relationship I feel that we should be in our honeymoon phase and shouldn't find anything yet to somewhat argue about. On the other hand, I'm getting worried that maybe my boyfriend doesn't like me romantically. He has never once shown me a romantic gesture like buying me flowers or take me out to dinner. I am always initiating us seeing each other, he used to always ask me to hang out and now it feels like I am the only one that makes plans for us to hang out, I have brought this to his attention and every time I bring it up he sort of will shut me down and tell him that, that isn't true an that he's trying his hardest. So, with him saying that I try to brush it off, I even tried for an entire week of me not asking him to hang out, and not a single I miss you, or I wanna see you. We didn't see each other that week. When we are together it's like we are on top of the world and he acts like he really likes me, but it feels like he might not have as much interest in me as he used too. I try my best to give him his personal time with himself and his friends but to a certain extent I wish he'd make plans with me the way he does with his friends. ANY GUYS WITH ADVICE PLS ANSWER ME BACK !!!

XO Anonymous

We hang out with the same group of friends. He always makes a lot of comments and considerations about my personality, which annoys me a bit. A selection of things he said about me I can remember about:

- he often compares me to his mother

- He thinks “I know a lot of trivia” (not sure how to take that)

- He tends to think that I’m better at doing things than I actually am

- he sometimes comments my hobbies saying I’m ready to become a mom

- he once commented in a surprised way that I am more playful than he thought I would be

- he’s usually making compliments as to my abilities

- he’s usually very caring with me

- I’m pretty sure he talked to one of his male friends about me and complained that I am too independent as a woman (because his friend called me out about me not letting men be gallant with me and that’s something that I’ve already heard from him)

Let me elaborate a little. Now, I know of course you want your SO and your friends to get along, and hanging out altogether shouldn't be an issue. But I've PERSONALLY always been of the mind that you just don't hang out with your friends SO's privately or talk to them privately. It feels like a line that shouldn't be crossed to me.
Well I have a close friend who views this a little differentially. She sees no issue with it if we all trust one another. We both recently met guys and have started seeing them, however both of us were friends with each guy before we really started "seeing" them if you will. We met her current SO first, nice guy, and again, we were all friends before they started getting serious. Even before they officially announced anything, I could TELL it seemed to be getting serious so I backed off and do not and have not spoken with him privately outside of what's said in front of said friend or in a group chat that she is in.

Now fast forward to meeting my SO. Again, we met mine at the same time and were friends with him before anything started. From the start he was definitely kinda seeking me out, talking to me more than her and what not so it wasn't really a surprise when we started seeing one another however, unlike the boundary I have myself not to cross... she doesn't really seem to have issue with trying to seek him out alone to hang out with or talk to privately. To my understanding my SO is not really receptive to it. Doesn't hang out with her when she offers, and it's hit or miss if he even responds to her when she tries to message him. Not that I've pressed for details, but they've both vaguely mentioned it here or there.

I don't want to be "controlling" or "toxic" or seem like I'm trying to commander their friendships, but I just am unsure if I'm the one with the issue or if there really is something weird about this.