I recently got into a relationship with this new guy and I can’t help but have the feeling that I am just filling his desire for a relationship rather than being the person he chose to have a relationship with.
About a year ago this man was living with his past girlfriend. They were only dating about 6 months before moving in together and another 6 months before he broke up with her for major red flags he realized after living with her.
After the breakup, he spent 6 months alone and then had a fling with a different girl for a few months. The fling girl ended up not wanting something serious and then less than a few weeks later, he found me and we started a relationship a few months into dating.
Considering his past dating history, I can’t help but think that it could have been any other girl to step into his life that he would end up dating. In other words, it feels like he wanted a relationship rather than wanting a relationship with me. It seems like he just goes from girl to girl to fulfill that desire of having his future life partner rather than trying to find the person he actually wants to be with.
I have brought up these concerns with him before but I feel like there’s no good way to explain his past dating timeline. Everything has moved very quickly. He treats me well and we have great communication. Is it wrong for me to be hung up on this?
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Girl, I totally get feeling that way after hearing about his dating history. That's a lot of moving around pretty quickly between girls. But try not to overthink it too much either, y'know?
At the end of the day he's with you now and that's what really matters. Maybe in the past he jumped into things before he was ready, but with you it seems like he's taking the time to build something real. As long as he's making you feel special and cared about each day, don't get too stuck on how you came together.
The past is the past - focus on the present. Talk to him some more if you're still unsure, but don't assume the worst. He chose you for a reason, even if it wasn't love at first sight. Relationships are a journey - give it time to grow deeper before judging his motives. You deserve to be happy! Trust that as long as you're putting in the effort too, it'll work out the way it's meant to. Keep communicating and enjoy each other. That's what really counts, babe!
Stop thinking about the past. Focus on you and him. As long as he’s yours now, don’t worry too much instead enjoy every moment you spend with him. Life is too short to worry about things you can’t change
You could have this mentality about yourself or anyone else at any time in your dating history.
Being hung up on something like this is just going to ruin a good experience