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I went through this about 10 years ago. My then 25 year old girlfriend made more than me when I was 32. But at the time I was pursuing a dream (I was a professional athlete) and I my time was consumed with training. I was no dead beat but I just had a different focus at the time.

I was doing freelance work just to pay the bills and I was struggling. She even offered me money at one time (which extremely kind of her) but it I turned it down out of pride and went further in debt.

Anyway the insecurity was on my side when it can to this (also contributed to our break up). She didn’t care but I did. It had a lot to with being raised to “be a man” when it came to being a breadwinner.

Nowadays I make a lot more money given I’m retired from my sport and have full focus on my career. But I am also a lot more “boring” now since I’m no longer the free wheeling adventurer I once was.

But money is a touchy issue. Form a evolutionary perspective I really do believe most women still subconsciously expect a man to provide for them even it’s unnecessary or impractical. They might get into short term flings with guys who offer other benefits (looks, excitement, adventurer, personality, etc) but when it comes to long term commitments they have a much higher bar on this

I also believe when a woman makes more money then her boyfriend/husband she’s more prone to cheating. Especially if she is comparable to him when it comes to looks (maybe she will stay loyal if she’s physically unattractive compared to him)

In fact I believe it’s unfairly more socially “acceptable” for a woman to do this given the guy is considered a “chump” if he is financial dependent on her. More more acceptable then vice versa.

I have a divorced uncle who worked a low paying his entire life and was supported by his (comparably) rich wife. She was no multi millionaire but she earned a lot more than him.

She ended up cheating on him the entire marriage. He tolerated it because they had kids and he needed support.

Married women are more likely to lean conservative. But does having children (married or not) impact a woman’s political beliefs?

I’ve had the displeasure of encountering a few childless middle aged cat ladies. 9 out 10 times they are far FAR left. What JD Vance said about them “wanting others to be miserable because their miserable” is very true. And if they had abortions earlier in their lives they often secretly regretting it.

Anyway I saw this comical post about never dating a single mother. It’s true there are a lot of pitfalls with that. But one thing is for certain: she choose to keep their child. I do respect that.

So just thinking for all the guys out there. Is it fair guys out women (over 30) in a damned if you do vs damned if you don’t scenario? Like a both sides are undesirable? I’m oddly beginning to believe single mothers might have a better head on their shoulders compared to single cat ladies over 30. The latter is usually extremely far left which is becoming increasingly insufferable.

NOTE: I no longer use the phrase “liberal” disparagingly. Instead I use the term “leftist”. They are not the same thing. A liberal is somebody who truly wants individual freedom. Think of a typical 1960s hippie (not a radical activist) when it comes the phrase “liberal”.

A leftist wants to use the power of the government to censor people and force redistribution. And there are a lot of “leftist” modern women today. They want communism.