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Heterosexual Ladies of GAG: Here's a hypothetical man. I was told by one female user he'd be a good man. But is that true? If you were/are currently single... WOULD YOU DATE THIS GUY?

POSITIVE TRAITS:

- Very Respectful, to both you and everyone else. But will always treat you with respect.

- Has good Communication skills, both in public speaking and especially in communicating with you.

- Very Affectionate; romantic, very touchy, and compassionate towards you.

- Really Loyal; to both you and his friends and family. He's the most dependable, reliable guy around.

- Intelligent and highly resourceful. Can easily solve many life problems, as long as they're not social issues.

- Good Sense of Humor. Is witty to hysterical, depending on the time and situation.

- Ethical. An all-around 'good' person. Not a saint or angel, but does his best to be a decent human being.

NEGATIVE TRAITS:

- Short. Probably your height (5'8" or under) in shoes or shorter than you. Use your imagination.

- Average looking face. Probably a 4 or 5 in looks. Easily someone you would NOT find attractive or good looking at all!

- Broke. Only makes around $25,000 a year working full time. May or may not be in university.

- Out of shape. Use your imagination here, but I won't give specifics. Could have a Dad Bod (average-fat), could be stocky/chubby (overweight), or could be obese (290-360 pounds). Take a guess.

- Gamer. Enjoys video games. Plays games about 6 to 9 hours a week. For many, many women, a gamer is a dealbreaker.

- Lonely. Has been alone for a long time (life). Is the same age as you and born in the same year, but has never dated anyone and is currently a virgin.

- Small penis. Is less than 7 inches, but more than 3.9. Use your imagination for the maximum you'd consider "small."

SO, WOULD YOU DATE THIS MAN? (No, he's not me! Nice try.)

@Ms_Facesitter (The main inspiration for the question.)
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@Lucy68
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You do not have a choice in whether you feel attracted to someone or not. Someone else does not have a choice in whether they feel attracted to you or not.

However you do have a choice to respect someone whether you feel attracted to them or not. Just like someone else can make a choice to respect you regardless of how they feel.

Personally I think too many people equate attraction to respect when it comes to dating. And no offense ladies but if you actually respected a guy who likes you (but you don’t find attractive) then you understand how insulting the friendzone is.

I've been in two at this point, there was a girl I was with for 6 months in 2020 but she had her mom tell me she passed away and months later when I was talking with who is now my girlfriend, I was given answers by her new boyfriend at the time when I begged him to say something.

She ended up messaging me but offered no explanation and the only apology i got was "I'm moving in with him in a year, sorry". While it sucks that it ended that way, I'm glad she didn't die cause the last thing I did before that stunt was pulled was ask her why she didn't tell me about the late text she got from who's now her current boyfriend at the time. Yeah, that sucked and I wish I'd been with my current girlfriend from the start.

Me and her are still together and going strong. We talk every single day and say "I love you" every day. She's been there for me like nobody else has and I've done the same for her and will continue to.

I've grown so happy with her that I question the way I described finding her, I said trying to find someone was like being on a planet made out of trash and fecal matter knowing that for the entire planet, there's one microscopic diamond there but the rest is literal shit and I had to dig until I found it.

Of course it was all worth it as I now experience love which is something I thought for a long time, I'd never experience in my life and it's wonderful. I'd never want to be with anyone else but I did question if describing so many people as trash and fecal matter in my analogy was too harsh.

However, as soon as I started watching loyalty tests, yeah I'm thinking I was right on the money there, pun intended. You name it and girls + guys did it in those tests, it's sad that people are so horrible to eachother nowadays.

What do you value most in a relationship? The most important things for me are affection, support, gotta at least be cute, nice, genuine, introverted and loyal. Money is a factor but not a big one for me

I've been an introvert for as long as I can remember, I've always kept to myself and often view the "popular crowd" very negatively, often seeing them as nothing more than immature entitled brats who will get nowhere when their parent's money runs out.

While that is most definitely a harsh characterization, it is an experience I've had frequently with those who consider themselves extroverts. I also find that these people are often real life examples of the Dunning-Krueger effect in that they're supremely confident that they know everything while simultaneously knowing absolutely nothing, which explains why these people are so liberal and dogmatic in their viewpoints.

For these reasons, I don't think it could ever work with an extrovert, although my first girlfriend was a conservative extrovert as they apparently exist, however she ended up sorta not really cheating on me. She ghosted me after being official for 6 months and reappeared only when I begged someone who knew her for an explanation and she'd gone with someone else as she then told me.

I've become much more assertive in the past year but still remain an introvert, not liking big crowds and rarely enjoying small talk unless it's with my current girlfriend who I've been with for the past 2 years following the fiasco that my ex created above. I see most extroverts as people who simply follow the herd, not taking a single moment to question what they're being told, or not being capable of thinking for themselves. Of course that isn't true for all of them but it is in my experience for most of them.

My girlfriend has become more assertive as well, not afraid to present an opposing argument and won't nod her head simply to avoid a debate. I'm the same way and the idea of nodding my head in agreement or staying quiet when I have an opposing opinion is a crazy idea to me. Me and my girlfriend are doing great and I couldn't be happier with her☺️
Do you date introverts or extroverts?