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Hi guys!

28 year old f who just got engaged to a lovely 27 yr old m. Just wonder if any one could give me a third opinion.

my fiancés father is a pastor and does marriage counseling for a lot of couples at our church and outside of our church. His dad and mom counsel the couples together. They’ve brought up that they could counsel us as well but we are honestly unsure if they should.

His parents are very cool and I have no issues with them, it’s just a matter of privacy I’m worried about and don’t know if his parents should know all the ins and outs of our relationship.

My mom recently asked who would do the counseling, and she asked would his parents do it. I told her we’ve been trying to figure that out but I knew when she asked me that she wanted to comment further but hesitated.

Any advice on this? It would be super helpful.

Thanks!

I’ve been living with my fiancé and his grandma for about 7 months now. Lately she has been getting even sicker (she’s on oxygen 24/7) so that also contributes to her having some breathing issues as well. It’s been a few days since she’s been back home from the hospital since her last visit not too long ago. Everything has been turned upside down!

No drama but everything is about her. I work full time M-F get home at 6pm so majority of my time is there since he doesn’t work but get $ monthly. She was already dependent on him but now it’s worse! He has to feed her, and walk her to the bathroom, clean up after her and clean the house all the time.

NYE was the first time in days we’ve spent more than 1 hr together.. IN THE SAME DAMN HOUSE!!! I’ve been asking him for months for dates, more than 2hrs of quality time, to get away from the house since his grandma is home ALLL the time!! We have no privacy and no peace and quiet at all cause he’s always chasing after her. Anytime we leave the house together it’s pretty much for her benefit not for a good time.

I don’t want to sound selfish but I’ve been helping him before her health declined but it makes me not want to help since there hasn’t been any balance in our relationship. It’s all about her and did I forget to add we’ve only slept in the same bed 5 times the whole 7 months I’ve been here.
I explain to him I want things to change that I want to go out and do things but I get an okay and nothing changes.

We had plans to spend the night at a hotel for NYE but had to cancel cause she need him on the hour by the hour 🙄. Our sex is always good but I’m checked out because if you can find time to have sex with me you can set aside more than an hour of your time!

We had a pregnancy scare but I’m thankful I’m not pregnant because I’d honestly leave this house. Myself nor my baby will sit there and be on the back burner. Not for no no one!!

!!! please no judgement!!