Do you believe somebody who takes care of you is more valuable than somebody you are deeply attracted to intellectually or physically or socially?

[jennifer_bloom]

I was watching a YouTube video of a marriage that ended in divorce and I saw the man married a woman that was so beautiful, you could go years without finding somebody who looked more attractive, but all she had was good looks, she never considered what her husband wanted, never contributed anything to the family, never gave in to demands if he was stressed out or tired or too busy to resolve the issue himself, and was never willing to give up what she wanted to support what he wanted when his interests were more time sensitive and context valuable than hers etc... My friend was aware that this situation happens in many marriages which is why she said, she did not even consider looks when choosing a husband because many people marry for looks and end up in abusive relationships.

[ChiTown33]

I would change the wording of that first part to "somebody who cares about you" not "cares for you".

I'd like to answer this question but I think in trying I'd upset people that I have no interest in upsetting and nothing would be gained by it.

Suffice it to real, lasting love is rare. And it is never easy or without continuous effort on both genders part.

[jennifer_bloom]

the reason I said cares for you rather than cares about you, is that cares for you can involve all relationships, beyond just a romantic marriage. It could involve co workers you hate, bosses you hate, parents who abuse you, kids who ignore your demands, ungrateful customers who verbally abuse you when you try hard to serve them etc...

[ChiTown33]

I guess it still doesn't work for me. Because I don't expect anyone to care for me be it romantic or otherwise.

[Samrasheihk]

jennifer_bloom your mind telex you trust me

[Anonymous]

I don't look for women to take care of me. I do however look for a woman who appreciates and cares for me.

[antelope51]

Well, the one who takes care of me is still here 20 years later because I can't push him away, lol. He may not be the sexiest car, but he's the most reliable and scratch and dent resistant.

[WhitneySnow]

They’re both important but you should always take care of each other

[Crankor]

Just having someone "take care" of me is not what I want. If I'm not attracted to them physically and brainfully (smirk) then it would never last.

[Samrasheihk]

jennifer_bloom you like me am Pakistani

[jennifer_bloom]

I do not date or feel romantic desire for women and I only date people who already have citizenship in Canada cause I'm not a green card bot. I also believe in building relationships and not predesigned matchmaking with people of unknown personalities.

[Samrasheihk]

Will you marrie me

[Samrasheihk]

jennifer_bloom

[jennifer_bloom]

I will not marry you

[Samrasheihk]

Me handsome boy my age 28 my hard working jennifer_bloom so lucky girl