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It's often that you'll hear people say to "never settle" when it comes to dating. People also criticize others for being too picky--like telling a friend that they're pushing away great people over a long checklist of qualifications.

So my question to you is: what should we do? should we settle for someone who doesn't meet our original expectation for a boyfriend/girfriend/spouse, or should we wait it out and hope for that special someone that we've always imagined to come along?

Just as some thoughts:

Merits to settling include: making it easier to get into a nice relationship. Giving an ordinarily overlooked persona a chance, and breaking the trend of leaving "average" people alone and dsingle, in favor of clamoring after the people that everyone else already likes.

Merits to never settling include preventing a relationship with a dissatisfying partner, avoiding regrets in your relationship, and being absolutely certain that your choice of partner was the best.

So what do you think?

Also, listen to Bo Burnham's song about it when you get the chance. You'll laugh. It's called "Lower Your Expectations."

An Emotional Caretaker is some own who avoids conflict in order to appease the other half the relationship in order to make them happy. They do this because the genuinely care for the other person and would rather themselves feel upset, hurt or anger then to cause the one they love to be hurt or upset. The long-term hope for the caretaker is that it the relationship will improve over time and eventually the other person will love and respect them on the same level that they love and respect their partner.

An Emotional Manipulator is some who is magnetically drawn to a caretaker, regardless of what the caretake does for them there is always a higher expectation for more. They make it hard for a caretaker to set boundaries or stand their ground an issue, because they constantly crossing lines or changing the aim of their target by deflecting and redirecting conversations or disagreement into other fronts and areas. Until it because too much for the caretaker to want to persist in the argument.

Most Caretakers do not see themselves as victims. Manipulators make themselves the victim in every scenario and do not always consciously know or acknowledge to themselves that the are using or taking advantage of anyone.

SO I will assume most will manipulators would never admit to be being one and by and large I do no think a true emotional manipulator has a complete grasp on who and what they really are. Most of time the behaviors of the manipulator are very subtle, passive and subconscious. They easily justify everything by making themselves the victim, and there by justifying their behaviors.

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stop-caretaking-the-borderline-or-narcissist/201404/when-relationships-are-based-manipulation#:~:text=An%20emotional%20caretaker%20is%20someone,health%20and%20well-being%20needs.