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Even with no actual experience I still believe I fall under this category, I wonder if I need to manifest the law of attraction or something even though I do think that’s bs.

You know when you have a gut feeling? I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, it’s come to the point where I’m not as interested & I swipe on matches/reply to msgs every few days. Dating apps are the only way I’ve tried dating as I dont have a social life but dating apps have been successful for quite a few people I know. I’ve never had a real relationship, I saw someone for a few months maybe 5 years ago & something told me after I saw him that’d I’d be single for a long time. With him it felt like settling & I refuse to ever be with someone that made me feel like that again.

I had to use dating apps bc I’m not very friendly & I don’t get approached in person. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & I will say I have a very low sex drive (haven’t masturbated or had sex in 5 years). I don’t think this is a huge deal considering this isn’t something that will be an issue that early on, a guy can’t just look at my profile/see me in person & know that right off the bat.

I get matches (never been the issue) but it’s always: ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest (can go both ways), feelings not reciprocated, just not a good match & some guys are just crazy. I just always have a gnawing feeling like guys aren’t attracted to me, I’d get told once in a while that some guy looked at me/found me cute but they never do anything about it. And I don’t either hence why I’m posting this

TLDR: based off the description, is this something that’s unlucky in love?

It has happened to me once and to my 2 female friends. We were 16 year-olds at the time but he was mature for his age. I actually did fell in love with him for both his looks and other traits such as a good, family-oriented boy, he was kind to others and liked reading and liked animals. He thanked me, said he felt flattered but wasn't interest in a romantic relationship, though we can be friends. I could tell he had a hard time saying all that.

If he would've rejected me harshly, called me bad names, acted grossed out or made a scene out of it, yeah I would've hated him forever or probably had self-esteem issues. It still hurt but much less than if he had been rude. We're still friends till this day and both of us dated others.

This happens to guys too. Who do you think gets hurts the most? The man or the woman?

I've once heard someone mocking a man for these reasons. That jerk was one of those people that goes with along with the mantra of men always having to be strong, suck it up and be a man. Personally I think these are valid ones. Would you say these are good reason for a man to really cry? What do you think?

- His long-term girlfriend said no to his marriage proposal. There were no issues in the relationship, all was good but she only wants him as a boyfriend, misled him, gave him false hope.

- A serious ilness in the family and he's overwhelmed with too much in his life that he can't bottle it up anymore and breaks down in tears, letting it all out for once.

- He finds out that as a result of a medical condition or genetic mutation, he'll never be able to father a child ever. I knew someone like that. He sat down, pulled his shirt over his head and literally broke down in tears.