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I’ve been emotionally committed to a guy for almost 3 years, I don’t think he ever emotionally committed to me though. We went on a 4 dates when we first met & never slept together. He’s stayed in touch with me on FaceTime through a deployment & him moving across the country. Emotionally were closer than ever, we talk for hours multiple days a week, but he recently told me he doesn’t want a LDR so I told him I’d move & he didn’t say anything about it. I know he’ll continue to call & share with me like I’m his girlfriend, but he isn’t moving this forward or willing to try.

I really love him so I don’t want to cut him out, but I don’t see another option except saying “Unless you’re ready to commit or give me real space in your life, please don’t call me”.

I’m looking for a man’s perspective, please give me advice or say what you think I should do.

You hear people say forgiveness sets you free…
but others feel like closure only comes after justice is served.

What actually gives you closure when someone you love hurts you deeply?

And to define what 'not treating others well' is:

• No interest in, and little or no time for, the other.
• Asking no questions about the other's life or how they are doing.
• Being entirely self-focused.
• Looking for encouragement and support, but not giving it in return.
• Not showing appreciation for the other.

How unwell is the person with depression/stress?
Answer: Highly stressed/depressed.

How long has it been going on?
Answer: Years.

I'm only giving two multiple choice options, which I know is limiting, but it's purposeful. I'm trying to distill a complex issue down to brass tacks.

Thank you, in advance, for all comments and thoughts on the matter. Feel free to elaborate. I'd love to hear your anecdotal and personal stories of how you felt, from either vantage point, and what you concluded and did about it.

P. S. The main reason I left GAG years ago is because GAG sucks ass now, due primarily to management issues being made.
I wasn't going to mention it, but it's happening right now, as I am trying to post this question.

They have programmed A. I. to take over my title, and is repeatedly changing the wording on it.
Fuck off, GAG, and A. I. I will decide what I want to say, and exactly how to say it.

My title should be: Is depression or chronic stress a valid reason not to treat others well?